278 – October 5
“If a ship has sunk, I can’t bring it up. If it is going to be sunk, I can’t stop it. I can use my time much better working on tomorrow’s problem than fretting about yesterday’s. Besides, if I let those things get me, I wouldn’t last long.”—Ernest J. King
It is tempting, when things go wrong and break down, to focus on your limitations and problems. Since what you concentrate on is what you get more of, this just creates more limitations and problems. People around you can feel that you are tense and unhappy and tend to shy away from you during this down period, creating even more scarcity, both personal and professional. Then you’re in a famine period.
At some point, you will decide you’ve had enough and take back control of your own fate, and do something creative to better your circumstances. On some conscious or unconscious level, you come to the conclusion that things aren’t going to get better until you make them better, and then you take action. Take a class, read a book, listen to a motivational tape or lecture, really listen to some good advice given by a friend and then do something different, based on this new information.
Proceeding from the decision to change and the action that backs up the decision, your life will start to improve. When you want to experience more good in your life, do more positive affirmations and start thinking more positively. As you think more and more positively, you send out more ships, so more abundance flows in. And you will begin feasting.
So what makes you go back to famine again? Somewhere along the line, a fear creeps into your thoughts. A deal falls through, an associate or relative criticizes you in a vulnerable moment, the car breaks down, the stock market declines. A chill goes through your bones and suddenly, you doubt yourself again. You stop thinking positive thoughts and start thinking negative ones. You start listening to the negative voice on the committee inside your head. Fear and doubt creep into your conversations, your plans, and your actions. Famine looms again.
Take control of your thoughts. Reaffirm your affirmations. The hardest time to do them is when you most need to do them: When you’re at your lowest point—and when you’re at your highest. At your lowest point, your negative voice is loud, you feel hopeless and depressed and it’s really hard to think and feel positive. And at your highest point, you tend to be less diligent, thinking you don’t need to do affirmations any more because everything is going well. I rode this roller coaster myself until I saw that I needed to be positively focused and do my affirmations with spirit and energy every day no matter what.
Every day. No matter what.
“I am loving my positive thinking every day!”
Periodically, I google “financial stress reduction®” which is my registered trade mark. There were 5.4 million web sites..and I was Number 1 on Page 1. When I googled the more generic “financial stress” one morning, I was at the top of page 3 – but out of 60.9 million web sites! (Be still my heart – the SEO is working.)
I’ll tell you, this was pretty exciting news for me, and of course, a ranking like this didn’t happen overnight. It’s the culmination of a lot of baby steps – building a web site, having a membership group, forums, audio, video, lots of written content, establishing a presence on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter, and finally a blog where I post every Monday-Friday.
Sounds exhausting, doesn’t it? And it can be, too, unless you pace yourself. You can’t do everything every day. Entrepreneurs can work 24/7 and not get everything done – we’re great at endlessly thinking up stuff to do – another program, seminar, product, marketing campaign, publicity, another book to write, another online group to join…the possibilities are endless!
And no, you can’t do it all. You can’t even do most of it. You can only do a fraction. So you have to make peace with that fact and just do a little bit every day.
I spoke with a woman who was interested in publishing her book but was overwhelmed with all the work it would take. I agreed with her that it was a lot of work. But so what? You can’t think like that. If you look at the totality of a project and all it will take to accomplish your goal, it can be so daunting that you don’t even want to start. A therapist friend of mine shared with me that when she wanted to get her Ph.D. later in life, a friend exclaimed, “But that’s going to take you 10 years. You’ll be 50 before you get it!” “I’m going to be 50 anyway – either with a Ph.D. or without one. I’d rather be 50 with one!” she exclaimed.
Look at the end result and just take a baby step today. All your little bits of work will, over time, add up to a big accomplishment! Focus on your goal and get started. I promise, you’ll be amazed at what you can do.