129 – May 9
“I forgive myself for having believed for so long that I was never good enough to have, get, be what I wanted.”—Ceanne DeRohan
From the moment of birth, our programming starts. Our parents tell us things over and over as we grow. We inculcate their opinions, beliefs, and emotions until they are almost ritualized. Like Pavlov’s dog, we salivate when the bell rings, whether or not there is food on the table. A look, a word, trigger automatic response. We don’t choose our response; it is programmed. The word is spoken or the body tenses or the angry look pierces us, and the CD goes in the slot and the record plays. We are unconscious; therefore we are helpless. We are our programming.
As we grow, we begin to learn that we can change the programming. We can put on a different CD. The search begins for the recording we want to hear. We go to college, seminars, psychotherapists; we read and study books, we discuss our search with groups of like-minded friends. We try out different CDs.
But if we don’t give the new programming enough repetition, enough time, we fail to overcome the original input. The original CD may be harsh, loud, out-of-tune, and play with a constant boom and thud in the background, like a neighbor’s over-amplified bass blaring their rock music. We give up in despair, surrendering to the thought “I was born this way. I can’t change. It’s just the way I am.”
Have faith! You will succeed. Newly programmed thoughts take time to marinate throughout your being. Habits are changed over time, with attention paid; consistent application of the new process, constant playing of the new CD will have its end result in new thoughts, new actions and new results.
In the play Ondine by Jean Giradoux, the title character—a water nymph—has been betrayed by her human husband, Hans. Their doom is that he shall die, and she will return to the sea and forget him. But Ondine tells him that she will not forget; she has taken her precautions: “You used to laugh at me when I made the same movements in your house. You said I counted my steps. It was true. It was because I always knew the day would come when I would have to go back. And now, in the depths of the Rhine or the ocean, without knowing why, I shall go on making the same movements that I made when I lived with you. When I plunge to the bottom, I shall be going to the cellar. When I rise to the surface, I shall be going to the attic. In this way, I shall be true to you always.”
You, too, are being true to a pattern, a habit of thought and movement. The one you were programmed with—or the one you chose. Which CD are you playing?
“I choose to be rich and happy and all my actions are in harmony with my choice.”
Top Ten Ways to be Happy at Work
- Choose Dolphins as Partners, Clients, Employees
– it’s impossible to be happy when surrounded by angry, whiney, complaining people
- Don’t Overwhelm Yourself with Too Many Projects
– you can’t really be happy if you’re tired
- Grow Rich in a Niche
– pick the number one thing you like doing and become known for that, not 20 things
- Know Your Limitations
– not everyone has to be number one; smaller can be happier
- Decide That You’re Already Happy and Confirm it Daily
– happiness follows the decision, not vice versa
- Live Within Your Means or Create Better Means
– millionaires have gone broke, so make sure you know how to budget
- Watch the News Only in Small Doses
– if it’s on TV, it’s going to be 90% negative and depressing
- Love People in Large Doses
– people are like thirsty plants – water them
- Have a Passionate Hobby and Make Time for It
– enthusiastically participate in an activity that is separate from your daily work routine
- Have a Passionate Life and Make Time for It
– have adventures, opinions, feasts, revels, dances, games, music!
I wish you a very happy day today and every day!