344 – December 10
“I wanted so badly to study ballet. But it was really all about wearing the tutu.”—Elle MacPherson
“I want to own a nightclub!” crowed Laura. Middle-aged and with a sunny personality, Laura lit up every room she walked in to with her positive energy. She had a million-watt smile and a can-do attitude and I knew she could do anything she wanted to do.
“What interests you about owning a nightclub?” I asked. Laura was currently working as a massage therapist, and nightclub ownership looked like a very different career step.
“I just love to dance!” she replied. “I go dancing just about every night. I love the music and the people I meet and everything about it.”
“Have you ever worked in a nightclub?” I pursued.
Immediately, I went in to “Goal Getting” mode: “I recommend that you get a job in a nightclub so you can learn what it takes to run one successfully. You need to learn about the financing, marketing, promotion, food and beverage, hiring acts or DJs, etc. You can take some classes at the local community college, too. Ask the owner of the nightclubs you go to if they will give you some advice….”
There were thunderclouds racing across Laura’s face. I saw the “Yeah, but” before it issued from her mouth. Oh, resistance, you drag your feet across all our lives….
“I don’t want to get a job in a nightclub,” Laura protested. “I just want to own it, and go there and have fun!”
“Well, if you don’t learn how to run it, you probably won’t own it for long!” I exclaimed.
Laura stopped and looked at me pityingly. “Chellie,” she said, “I don’t really want to own a nightclub. I just want to have the fantasy of owning a nightclub.”
We stared at each other for a moment…then we cracked up laughing. “Okay!” I said. “The Fantasy Island nightclub is yours!”
Fantasies add a lot of pleasure to our lives. They’re dream diversions, escapes from everyday realities, and playgrounds for our minds. Enjoy them, and let others enjoy them, too. We don’t have to take action on all of them. Let someone else do the ownership thing. Go dancing. In a tutu. Dream on.
“I am dancing in the sunlight and moonlight of my life!”
I remember this incident like it was yesterday, even though it was about 15 years ago. It was pretty funny at the time, and still puts a smile on my face. There is a lot of room in our consciousness for fantasy lives – things we can dream about without having to actually do the hard work of trying to manifest! Maria Nemeth, in her book “The Energy of Money” talks about there being a metaphysical reality and a physical reality, with a border in between them. She said lots of people are having trouble at the border!
Have fun with your dreams, the fun fantasies that make you smile, where you try on the life of a rock star, a movie mogul, or president of the United States. When one of those dreams strikes your fancy so hard that you’re willing to work to achieve them, create an action plan and then get to work. If your goal is juicy enough, just working on achieving it will also be juicy! And I think that’s the point of it all – choose goals that make life fun just working to achieve it.
What makes today juicy for you?