Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”
“Just because you made a mistake doesn’t mean you are a mistake.”—Georgette Mosbacher
The First Law of a Thousand Times is that we have to hear the truth a thousand times before we understand it. The Second Law of a Thousand Times is that after understanding the truth, it takes a thousand attempts to make it a part of your life before it works. After a thousand tries, you are finally able make the new truth a part of your life and you are changed.
The process of change is often slow. It seems that we do what doesn’t work over and over, watching ourselves fail, before we get the glimmer of the idea that if we want things to change, we have to change ourselves—otherwise, they don’t change. Then we think about change for a long time, fearful of what the new challenge will bring, while the committee in our heads rages arguments pro and con. Finally, it hurts so much to continue the way we are that we make the decision to actually change. Next, we get to watch ourselves continue to be and do the old ways that we know don’t work. We feel powerless to escape the habit we have built.
Suddenly, in one moment, we think the new thought and do the new action in a seamless, effortless triumph over our past. This happens around the 300th time we make the attempt. We feel how good the new choice feels and we celebrate that we have finally changed. Then, we backslide and do things the old way, again and again. Then, on the 551st try, we do the new change brilliantly once more. Now we’ve got it, the new feeling of the new way of being and doing is clearer. We slide back again into the old habit, but then we accelerate the number of times we do it right. We backslide less often, and succeed more often.
Finally, on the 1,000th time, we’ve made the new change a part of our new selves.
Be patient with yourself as you work on your changes. Bless the process, keep courage and heart in your spirit, and move forward. One step at a time. The 1,000th time will arrive.
Today’s Affirmation: “I embrace changes that make me stronger, wiser, and richer every day.”
I love this piece by my friend, Jeannine Wiest – such a great example of how understanding oneself helps us to move through our problems to success!
By Jeannine Wiest, Certified Craniosacral Therapist
Years ago I spent a week at a goddess workshop on the Big Island of Hawaii. The leaders were strong women with unique offerings designed to help each participant do her inner goddess work. They had handouts and amulets, and we swam with dolphins, and I had a spiritual encounter with a sea turtle in the ocean, mirroring me. But my biggest revelation that week was not on the schedule. It was a dramatic outburst. I revealed my psychic wound and had a chance to transform it.
From the time we landed at the airport, everything went wrong. When finally we got going, it was dark, and I was squished inside a van with lots of bags, women I didn’t know, and four hours late. My plan was to join two friends to find our inner goddess in paradise, but at that moment I felt as if I were Persephone on her way to Hades.
I was exhausted after an awful, winding drive, but the moment we arrived at the site, one of the leaders had us draw self portraits. We were supposed to have arrived for a sunset ceremony that had transformed into a welcome ceremony and the self- portrait exercise with crayons and colored pens. I chose a brown crayon and drew a bed with a stick figure lying on it. Passive aggressive, but I needed this gooey stuff to stop. I wanted my bed.
After the ceremony I finally saw my bed. Or should I say, my half a bed. I was to room with three women, my two friends and the third, a stranger, my new bedmate. I was livid. I stormed down the stairs of this elegant home and fumed “I am a grown up and I need my own bed.” Everyone stared at me, but they did put a mattress out on a private lanai. There I slept without dreaming.
I’m proud that I made sure my needs were met that first night, but I’m not proud of the way I did it. I exclaimed that I was a grown up, but my behavior showed otherwise. The leaders held space for me to rant as I needed to although the question is, “who was running the show just then?” And I know now that my invisibility wound from childhood was in charge, and the work I needed to do that week was going to happen whether I was a grown up or a child. My outburst, while messy, was perhaps more effective than anything the organizers had planned for.
In cranial work we talk about peeling the onion. Years have passed since that weekend, and the woman I was to have shared a large bed with is now my best friend. I wonder if I had allowed the evening to unfold in its own perfection, if I might have spared myself the angst of that first evening. Obviously at that point in my journey, I needed the angst, needed to feel something to come up against. I wasn’t yet ready to trust the unfolding, the magic of meeting a stranger who would become someone I love. I see the irony now, and I also realize that however I chose to approach my needs that week, the opportunities to work with my invisibility wound were all around me, starting with the challenges of that first evening. I tell this story to suggest to you, and to remind myself, that worries and wondering about “this” or “that” workshop aren’t important. When you arrive at your destination, you needn’t wait for the workshop to start. It already has.
Jeannine Wiest,CST, is a certified, advanced craniosacral therapist in Los Angeles. Her company Cranial Alchemy offers group classes on Finding and Restoring Your Creative Brilliance.With her private hands-on clients, she specializes in helping them transform traumatic energy that’s trapped in their bodies so they can connect with their creative power. www.jeanninewiest.com