281 – October 8
“It’s the repetition of affirmations that leads to belief. And once that belief becomes a deep conviction, things begin to happen.”—Claude Bristol
In tears, Letty called me. A vibrant, happy mother and partner in her husband’s computer consulting business, she wore braces to correct the alignment of her teeth. She had been to the orthodontist and got bad news. Several things were not going as planned, and the orthodontist needed to do some major work on her teeth today. Although she was supposed to come to class this evening, she called me to cancel, fear projecting her into the pain, swelling, and suffering she expected to undergo.
“Chellie,” she said, “I need some positive affirmations for this process! I’m so depressed and scared that I can’t get my mind on anything but the pain I expect. I know that if I expect pain, I’ll get pain. Help me!”
“Good job, Letty!” I told her. “You have identified the problem and you know what will help alleviate it. But you don’t need me to give you the affirmations—you can do them yourself.
“First, take a piece of paper and draw a line vertically down the middle. At the top of the left hand column, write ‘Fear’ and at the top of the right hand column write ‘Affirmation.’ Now start writing down every fear you have about today in the left hand column. Write until you’ve thought of everything. After you’ve completed the ‘Fear’ column, start countering each fear with a positive affirmation on the right hand side of the paper.
“When you have written an affirmation for every fearful thought, fold the paper so you can only see the affirmations, and start saying them out loud, with positive visions of health and good feelings. Use the mirror technique, and say them aloud while you look yourself in the eye. Say them in the car while you drive to the orthodontist. Focus on them and your vision for your beautiful face with perfect teeth throughout the procedures. Every procedure is bringing you closer to your perfect vision. You may feel sensations as the doctor works, but no pain. And it will be fast and easy!”
I have used this technique myself on many occasions and had pain-free medical procedures that I was told were going to be pain-full. I remember channeling my anger at having to have the procedure into a determination not to have the pain they told me I was going to have, so that I basically hypnotized myself into a comfort zone from which I refused to emerge. The energy of emotions can be channeled this way: Feel the power of the fear, get mad at whatever made you fearful, feel the power of the anger build, control it, harness it and then channel its flow to the positive vision. You win!
“I am healthy! I feel fine and I feel wonderful!”
Here’s some interesting facts about using social media:
Do you post content on social media and then…hear crickets chirping in the background? Here’s an interesting study on Facebook pages from Facebook and journalists with findings about what gets commented on and what doesn’t. My favorite findings:
- Posts with questions generate 70% more comments than the average post. Other top producers: clever language (120% increase) and asking for input (also a 120% increase). My thinking: these ideas are simple and can be implemented now. Major bang for our social media buck.
- Passionate debates and touching emotional stories generate two to three times the increase in feedback. My vote: the former is easier to implement than the latter for B2B experts. B2C experts do need more emotional posts.
- Checking in happens around the workday: morning, noon, after work, and late at night. My observation: those in the entrepreneurial space will find traffic on the weekends, too.
Many thanks to Dale Collie, who graciously shared this study via SpeakerNet News.
I think these points apply to books, too. I read many self-help books, and the advice is usually the same, you know. Only the personal stories are different, and when I read a new book, that’s what I’m looking for – engaging personal stories that illustrate a principle, not just another laundry list of “do this, don’t do that”. I want to know what it was like, what happened, and what it’s like now (that’s the instruction given to speakers at AA meetings).
That’s the formula I used in all my Wealthy Spirit stories. I figured that a lot of people needed some help with their finances, but if I didn’t make it user-friendly through stories, they’d be turned off and wouldn’t read them. I thought if I make the stories interesting enough, people will get the financial points almost like osmosis.