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    Joe To Go Coffee

    Posted on December 20th, 2014 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    354 – December 20

    “The only person who never makes a mistake is the one who never does anything.”—Theodore Roosevelt


    My friend, Erik, gave me a pound of Joe To Go Coffee. It was a delicious blend called “Chocolate Hazelnut.” I thoroughly enjoyed it, and when it was gone, I wanted more. So I called Erik to find out where to get some, and he offered to order a five pound bag for me. Delighted, I said, “Great!” and waited for the delivery of my yummy coffee.

    And waited.

    And waited.

    No coffee.

    Finally, I called Erik and asked what had happened. He assured me that he had ordered the coffee and the company had said they shipped it. “I’ll call them today and find out what happened,” he said.

    He called back a few minutes later and said that somehow my coffee got shipped to Boston. He apologized for the mistake and said I should get my coffee in a couple of days. Sure enough, two days later, I got my coffee and considered the matter settled.

    Five days later, I received another package from Joe To Go Coffee—two five pound bags, one of Vanilla Nut and the other of Chocolate Amaretto. “Oops!” I thought, “Another mistake. I didn’t order this. These people are going to have to get their act together.”

    I called Erik and reported this new error. Imagine my pleasure and surprise when he told me that the company had sent these ten pounds as a gift to apologize for their late shipment to me of my original order! They could have blamed the shipping company, they could have blamed a “clerical error” or “computer glitch,” they could have said nothing and done nothing. Instead, they sent me a present.

    I am loving my coffees. I serve it to all my clients and guests. And I tell them all this story. I am giving Joe To Go Coffee oodles of free publicity, great testimonials, new customers, and now they’re in this book. Because they not only have a high quality product, but they have high quality care for their customers: They cared enough about me to send me a present to apologize for a mistake. I was delighted and impressed. For ten pounds of coffee, they got a customer for life. Send out a little ship, in comes a big ship.

    So what do you do when you make a mistake?

    Today’s Affirmation: “I blaze trails of happiness everywhere I go!”


    I ordered coffee from Joe to Go for years, and then they either changed the name or were bought out, because they answer the phone “Supreme Bean” now. Since I stopped doing my workshops in person and now do them as a teleclass, I don’t have to provide coffee for my participants, so I don’t buy that much coffee any more. And the grocery stores sell the fancy coffees now, too, so I just buy my small quantities there.

    Last year, I was on a diet to reduce the acid in my system, so had to stop drinking coffee. Yikes. No caffeine, nothing spicy, no fruit juice, no chocolate, no tomatoes. Giving up tomatoes and tomato sauce was hard – do you know how many things you eat use tomatoes? Pizza, spaghetti, all the Italian and Mexican dishes, BLTs, chili…but no coffee?? Jeez-o-man. Kill me now.

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    I was feeling quite put out by having restrictions on my diet. But I could play the Glad Game and think it was probably very good for me to have a cleanse and release toxins from my body. I could put a good spin on it, too, see?

    But I remember the ad I saw for coffee once that said something like, “Sure, if you don’t buy the latte every day, you can save $1,500 this year. But man, you’d be cranky.” Yep. I was. And I have to tell you, I never felt quite as sharp on caffeine-less tea as I did on coffee. After six months of that, I got some medication that solved the issue, and cheerfully went back to drinking my coffee. Then they came out with a study that said something like 6 cups of coffee a day prevented cancer and was actually good for you after all. Go figure.

    I think I’m going to go with affirmations that everything I eat makes me smarter, richer, happier, and healthier. If you are what you think, and thinking creates your reality, why shouldn’t it work with food, too? I’m going for that this year!

    Storage Lockers—The Sequel

    Posted on December 19th, 2014 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    353 – December 19

    “Isn’t it frightening how soon later comes, after you buy now?”—Earl Wilson


    After the “The World’s Largest Writing Workshop” at the Barnes and Noble bookstore, I wrote to Billy Mernit, thanking him for his time, his expertise, and his relaxed and friendly teaching style. I enclosed a copy of the “Storage Lockers” page and asked if he would allow me to print it and use his name. I also mentioned that if he had any changes he would like to suggest, I would be happy to make them.

    I was delighted to receive his charming response, in which he said he was flattered and happy to receive my story and letter. However, he let me know that “the storage space only cost $60.00 when I first rented it—and has gone up in price at $5.00 increments every year since—so the sum total of my ‘toehold debt’ is actually a bit less (you do the math) than $12,000.” He went on to say that “If you can find a succinct way of stating that (i.e., in a sentence that doesn’t distract from your narrative flow and brevity), I’ll feel a little less silly—and your point will still be made. If you feel it messes up your story, on the other hand, you know what they say: Print the legend.”

    I thoroughly enjoyed his letter, and his term “toehold debt,” which will now become a part of my vocabulary.

    As requested, I did the math, so the actual “toehold debt” Billy has on his storage locker is, as of this writing, only $9,900 instead of $12,000, so that correction is here noted. However, I noticed that since the price will escalate $5 per month next year and the year after that, etc., it will be $12,600 by 2002. By 2010, barring any increases, the total cumulative expense for the storage locker for twenty years will be $22,680. But what if a similar amount of money were saved instead of spent? To use round figures, if $100 per month were invested at 8 percent rate of return for twenty years, it would result in a total of $56,991.

    The Billy Mernit lessons are:

    1.     Write thank you letters—they’re fun to give and fun to receive.

    2.     Do your research—people care that you get your facts straight.

    3.     “Toehold debt” accumulates over time—keep track of how much you are willing to pay.

    Today’s Affirmation: “Whatever I pay for gives me a great payoff.”


    In 2010, I estimated Billy’s cumulative expense for the locker would be $22,680. I wonder if he still has it?

    I notice that what I didn’t tell you in this story is that I have a little “toehold” debt of my own. I joined the Screen Actors Guild in 1973 when I was an actress working in Hollywood. I quit acting around 1980 and went on withdrawal from the union, which means that I a non-working member and don’t owe dues. When I was hired to do a Dove Soap commercial in 1987, I reinstated my active membership…and I have paid my dues every year since.

    It isn’t all that much money – $100 per year or so – and I get all their mailings, the magazine, the casting notices, etc. And I really enjoy keeping up with things, even though I am not active in the profession now. It’s a gift to the actress part of Chellie to stay in touch. I think it’s worth it. Becoming a member of SAG back in the day before I was eligible for membership seemed like one of those fabulous brass rings that are so hard to reach, and therefore such a triumph when you do. I’ve been a proud Union member ever since, and I don’t want to give it up. So. There.

    Do you have a “toehold” debt?

    Storage Lockers

    Posted on December 18th, 2014 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    352 – December 18

    “Teach thrift to all with whom you come in contact; you never know when you may need their savings to finance one of your ventures.”—Don Marquis


    One Saturday, I went to a local bookstore for “The Largest Writing Workshop in the World,” which hosted local authors to speak on the craft of writing. As I had just signed the contract for my first book, I had several agendas: 1) I wanted to participate and learn something new about the craft of writing; 2) I wanted to find out how events like this were done; and 3) I wanted to introduce myself to the store manager, let him know of my upcoming publication and see if I could arrange to speak and do a book signing at his store (sending out ships early!).

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    The first speaker was author Billy Mernit, who has written Writing the Romantic Comedy. Charming and upbeat, he introduced himself, telling us that he was an expatriate New Yorker: “Once a New Yorker, always a New Yorker!” he exclaimed laughingly. His eyes twinkled as he confessed that he still had a storage locker in New York filled with couches, lamps, tables, chairs and other furniture along with “forty to forty-five boxes.” He shook his head as he considered the quirk of character that kept him paying $100 per month for this piece of home in New York.

    My ears picked up at this news. “How many years have you had this locker?” I asked.

    “Ten!” several members of the audience shouted, as Billy now tried to claim only “Nine.” Everyone laughed as Billy sheepishly acknowledged the total expense he had accrued in order to keep his toehold in New York: $12,000.

    To a New Yorker in Los Angeles, this expense to remain a New Yorker is probably worth it. But the rest of you might take a look at where your past is dragging money away from your future and let go.

    Billy led us through some thoughtful writing exercises, then told us how he had created his latest book, That’s How Much I Love Youwith his wife of two years, artist Claudia Nizza from Italy. They had met on a moonlight hike in Hollywood and love blossomed quickly. They dated for several weeks before her vacation was over and she had to fly back to Rome. He bought her a ticket back to Los Angeles, but she couldn’t return for several months, so they talked on the phone often. He would ask, “Have I told you how much I love you?” Claudia would say, “No,” and he would make up little stories to explain his deepening love for her. And one time he called and she said, “Okay, we do a book.” They married on a hilltop in Malibu and their book is beautiful.

    Everyone laughed when I asked if she had a storage locker in Italy. “No,” he replied. “But she has a studio there!”

    Today’s Affirmation: “I am rich in life and love and all the world is my home!”

    If I wasn’t writing this book at the time, I probably would have forgotten all about this incident. How many fun, upbeat, quirky, sad, disturbing, or interesting things happen to us every week that we enjoy for the moment, but then never think of again?

    My sisters have memories of childhood incidents that I have forgotten completely, and I have some that they don’t remember at all, either. Memory is selective. You retain what you determine to remember, or what makes a special impression on you, or that you have a strong emotional reaction to.

    A funny thing about going to this bookstore event was that many of the Barnes and Noble bookstores across the country were participating, and I called around to several of the stores in the Los Angeles area to see who the instructors were going to be. One store was having John Voorhees, who writes about poker and has a regular column in the Card Player magazine. As a poker aficionado, I thought that would be great, so I decided to go there.

    But somehow, I got my wires crossed and ended up at the Marina del Rey bookstore instead. I don’t know how that happened, but once there, I decided just to stay and make the best of it. What’s that quote? “Things turn out the best for people who make the best of the way things turn out” or something like that. I definitely think this turned out for the best – I loved meeting Billy. And I got two more pages for The Wealthy Spirit out of it, too!


    Posted on December 16th, 2014 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”


    350 – December 16

    “We are each the parents of our dreams, so we must support them as best we can until they can support themselves.”—Paul and Sarah Edwards


    Two of my favorite singers are Emmylou Harris and Linda Ronstadt, so I eagerly bought their Western Wall: The Tucson Sessions CD as soon as it was available and enjoyed it immensely.

    Robert Hilburn interviewed them for the Los Angeles Times. One of the things that most impressed him was how much they talked about other artists they admired. Generous in praise of each other, Emmylou spoke of having seen Linda for the first time in the late sixties. Harris was living in New York then and trying to get started in her music career. She said, “I thought I was pretty good. But when I heard Linda do this a cappella thing, I thought that no voice could be that beautiful.”

    Hilburn asked if that intimidated her, and I was struck by her reply: “Absolutely. I knew I could never sing like that. It really shook my confidence. So for a while, I thought I’d concentrate on writing songs. Then I went to the Philadelphia Folk Festival, and I heard Joni Mitchell and Bonnie Raitt. I thought, ‘How can I compete as a songwriter?’ because Joni was singing my heart and my soul. Then Bonnie got up there, playing slide guitar and singing great. At that point, I sort of gave up pursuing a career for a short period of time.” I couldn’t believe what I was reading. Emmylou Harris, with one of the most beautiful, angelic voices I’ve ever heard, felt intimidated by the competition?

    Then Linda was asked the same question about the first time she heard Emmylou and she answered: “It was really a crisis for me. I felt she was doing (country rock) much better than I was. She was so much farther down the road. It was a time where I had to say I can either let this make me feel really terrible and I won’t get to enjoy the music or I could accept it as really great and enjoy it. And that’s the choice I made. And it was a great lesson, because music isn’t a horse race and you can’t have it be a competition….There’s room for us all, and we all have our own stories.”

    This interview was amazing to me. Here they were, two wonderful, brilliantly talented, successful musicians—and they were talking about their feelings of inadequacy! I had forgotten that incredible people have doubts, too. Sometimes I think I’m the only one who thinks like that. Who do I think I am to be writing a book? I’m not as funny as Annie Lamott, I’m not a financial planner like Suze Orman; I’m not as good at sales as Zig Ziglar….Thanks, Linda, for reminding me: There’s room for us all, and we all have our own stories. I’ll be the best me I know how.

    Today’s Affirmation: “I am loved and acknowledged for my unique and wonderful talents!”

    I wonder if this feeling of being “not good enough” is something innate or if it’s learned– the old “nurture or nature” question. We just don’t know exactly how it happens. This article in the paper really helped me the day I read it, because I was struggling with getting my book finished. I was getting close to the finish line and beginning to doubt myself.

    Isn’t it comforting to know that others—even talented, successful celebrities that we admire—feel the same way sometimes?

    Soon afterward, a student of mine Donna called me the day after class.  Intelligent and warm, I enjoyed meeting her and was glad she enrolled in my financial workshop.  She worked selling advertising for a small publication and wanted to increase her sales and income.  I wondered why she seemed a bit anxious that first night as each participant introduced themselves.  Now on the phone, she explained.

    “Last night, listening to the other people talk about their goals, I didn’t feel I belonged in the group.  I felt their goals were so much higher than mine; that they were smarter, better, more experienced—more whatever—than me.

    “But I had a realization as I walked down the hill to my car.  When I arrived for your class, I had parked at the bottom of the hill, thinking that others would have gotten there first and taken all the convenient parking spaces.  But I was the first to arrive!  Why did I assume that others would be there before me?  Why did I park at the bottom and walk up that steep hill without even trying to see if I could park at the top?

    “I saw that this was a metaphor of how I have been living my life.  I have assumed that others will take the top spots, so I automatically settle for the inconvenient place, the lesser place—and lesser income, too.  But now that I’ve seen it, I’m going to stop it.  I will find my space at the top of the hill from now on.”

    Do you park at the bottom of hills?  Do you take a back seat, let others do the talking, let others get the clients, the sales, and the cash?  Who told you to do that?  Who told you that you had to go last?  The little child inside us needs nurturing and support as much as the little child in our arms.  As Marianne Williamson said, “Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.” We don’t encourage others to shine when we hide our own light.  Let us strive to be the best we can be, and empower others to do the same.  Let us all look for the top of the hill.  And if today, you don’t get the premium space, oh well, there’s another day tomorrow.  We can fail sometimes and be last sometimes.  But we don’t have to settle for last as our default position every time.  At least drive up the hill and look around.  You may find you’re the first one up there after all.

    Whatever work you do, you have to fight inner demons as well as the outer ones.  You have to stay focused on positive thoughts in order to have positive outcomes.  The first positive is you.  You are the only you on the planet and there are people out there just praying for you to show up.  They want what you have to give and will pay you richly for it.  But you have to reach out and ask.  To do that you need confidence in your self-worth, which is what it takes to produce your net-worth.  You are worthy, worthwhile and worth it!  You wouldn’t be reading this if you weren’t.  You can do anything you want.  Fill your mind with positive statements, repeat affirmations, listen to encouraging audio tapes, read enlightening books.

    See you at the top of the hill.

    For Your Children

    Posted on December 15th, 2014 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    “Always be nice to your children because they are the ones who will choose your rest home.”—Phyllis Diller

    349-December 15

    “I have no trouble selling someone else’s products or services, I just have trouble selling my own!” Joan despaired. A chorus of agreement rumbled through the class


    349-December 15


    “I used to be much more motivated when I had children,” she went on. “I knew I had to make a living to support them. I was willing to do whatever it took to make that happen. But now the kids are grown, I have enough money to get by, but I want more. But I just can’t seem to make the calls and do the work.”

    An idea came to me: “I want you to get four pictures of yourself,” I said. “One picture of you as a baby, one from third grade, one from high school and one from college. Put these pictures on the wall above your desk: These are the children you’re working for now. They all still exist in you and deserve your best efforts. Nurture them, care for them, and love them. Work to buy them things to enjoy, work to make them happy. They deserve ‘above and beyond money,’ not just ‘getting by money.’ And you deserve it, too!”

    I’ve met many women who work easily “on behalf of the children.” It makes them feel less selfish. Usually these same people they can promote and sell someone else’s products or services much better than their own. To promote their own feels too much like bragging. It’s the “good girl” syndrome: Don’t brag, don’t be forward, be nurturing, be giving, be nice. If this was your upbringing, you’re going to have to work to get over it. Or use it: It’s not bragging if your service can really help the other person—it’s your duty to them to convince them to buy the service that will make their life better. It’s perfectly okay if you benefit, too, and make a profit! If you don’t make a profit, you’ll be out of business, and then you can’t help anyone any more.

    See how this works? It’s called “re-framing” in psychology circles. Give yourself good, positive reasons to be successful, and help people at the same time. You don’t have to choose. You can do both.

    Today’s Affirmation: “My wonderful contributions flow into the Universe and great wealth flows back to me.”

    “Oh, I need your products!” said my friend, Sarah, to the woman at the networking meeting who was a skin-care representative. “Please call me tomorrow morning so I can talk with you about what I need to buy.”

    Then she met a woman who did graphic design. “Oh, I need graphic design for my new flyers and my web site, too!” she exclaimed. “Please call me tomorrow morning so you can help me decide what I need to buy.”

    Neither woman called the next morning. In fact, they never called.

    What’s up with that?? Aren’t they networking to get more clients for their business? And here was a client with money who wanted to buy – why wouldn’t they call her?

    Sarah’s experience wasn’t the only one. Throughout my networking career, I heard stories like these over and over again.

    Once I called a woman who had been a regular at a networking meeting and stopped coming. When I called and asked her why, she said the group didn’t work for her – she never got any business from it.

    “How many meetings did you go to?” I asked.

    “I went to one every month,” she replied. (Only one?)

    “Did you call people after the meeting?” I inquired.

    “No,” she said. “If they wanted my services, they would call me.”

    I knew she wouldn’t be in business for long.

    Let me give you a tip: They aren’t going to call you.

    Why? Because they have a life, they have priorities, they need clients themselves, they have another appointment, it’s their mother’s birthday, they have to wash their hair. You and your stuff are way down at the bottom of their priority list. Even if what you have is what they most need and close to the top of their list, they aren’t going to call you. They have fears. They have objections: You’re going to charge too much, they really should remodel their house first, it’s their daughter’s birthday tomorrow, maybe you aren’t really the best one for the project, it’s too far to drive, they’d have to convince their Significant Other and that might mean an argument and that would lead to problems and oh it’s just easier to forget the whole thing…

    And you don’t call them, because you don’t want to hear all their objections. You want to hear “Yes!” so much! But not as much as you are afraid of hearing “No.”

    So most small business owners continue to network and not get the results they want, and make a lot less money than they deserve.

    If you have any struggles around money these days, obviously, you are not alone. The whole world has been affected by the financial debacle of the real estate bubble. The financial hardships I see are even harder on women, who still only make 77 cents to a man’s dollar, largely because women still feel badly about “asking for money”. But in the marketplace, we must ask to be paid for our services!

    Women have a lot of negative emotional baggage around that request, and so often, women don’t ask for what they are worth and settle for less than they should expect. Did you know that men are 8 times more likely to negotiate their starting salary than a woman? And if she settles for $25,000 per year and he negotiates $30,000, over the next 30 years (with the same percentage raises, bonuses, etc.) he will have made over $500,000 more than she!

    In the book “Women Don’t Ask”, the authors told of studies comparing men and women and their ability to negotiate:

    • Men think of negotiating as “winning a ballgame”
    • Women think of negotiating as “going to the dentist”
    • When men negotiate, they get paid approximately 30% more than women
    • By failing to negotiate their starting salary, a person will lose $500,000 by age 60

    I understand it – I think it’s partly biological – a woman needs to be able to put others first in order to raise children. This giving quality makes us great care-givers, nurturers, teachers, and workers in the helping professions. And so we naturally think of others and the stress they might have in paying us. So we make allowances, reduce our rate, and even give it away for free. We wait for people to call us because we don’t want to “bother” them. Even when they ask us to call them!

    We have to change our thinking and our behavior with money. Because the real money we lose is the money we fail to earn.

    Little Wins

    Posted on December 13th, 2014 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”


    347 – December 13

    “Celebrate what you want to see more of.”—Thomas J. Peters


    My mother often got nervous if I got excited about something. I remember once having met a nice young man and hoping that he would call. He did. After I hung up the phone, I danced into the living room and crowed, “Steven asked me out—we have a date for tomorrow night! I’m so happy!” Mother visibly cringed and said, “Now, honey, don’t get your hopes up.”

    Ouch! This really put a damper on my mood. She was afraid for me to expect or want anything for fear it might not turn out the way I wanted and then I’d be disappointed. But I was just happy over the little win—I wanted him to call and he did. I wanted him to ask me out and he did. I wanted to celebrate the wins I got—I didn’t know what was going to happen on the date. Maybe it would be a win and maybe it wouldn’t. That took away nothing from the win today.

    Some people never want to get excited so that they won’t get depressed if it doesn’t work out. But the trap they set up for themselves is that they talk themselves out of feeling anything other than caution. When we talk ourselves out of emotion and circumvent our feelings, it becomes a habit that deadens us to the world and each other. I think that’s why we revere actors so much—they show so much real emotion. Most people don’t. They keep a “stiff upper lip” and die inside. Once I said enthusiastically to a man, “This is stupendous!” He looked at me quizzically and said, “I never use words like stupendous. Nothing seems to rate that much excitement to me.” How sad! Someone in his past must have told him that it wasn’t okay to get excited.

    Pick some exciting words and use them! It’s fabulous, terrific, stupendous, extraordinary, superior, amazing, astounding! Write in exclamation points! Celebrate your little wins and enjoy them. You earned it! And your happiness will infect everyone around you, too.

    Today’s Affirmation: “I celebrate all my stupendous wins every day!”

    I still celebrate the little wins. If you have to wait for the big win, you’re just not going to be very happy in the meantime, are you? I want to be happy all the time, every day!

    Marci Shimoff, wrote the NY Times bestselling book “Happy for No Reason”. In her travels as a speaker and author of several “Chicken Soup for the Soul” books, she came across very happy people and very miserable people, and their happiness quotient didn’t seem to have much to do with their circumstances.

    She decided to research happiness, asking everyone she met, “Who’s the happiest person you know?” Usually, the first person they’d mention would be someone fabulously successful, but then they’d stop and say they weren’t “really happy.” She kept searching and interviewing people. She discovered habits that happy people share and determined to write a book to show people how to consciously develop lasting happiness.

    I was honored that she chose me as one of her “Happy 100”, and included one of my stories in her book. How she found me is quite a serendipitous chain-of-events story:

    Marci’s co-author of her book, Carol Kline, had also helped write Jack Canfield and Gay Hendricks’ book “You’ve Got to Read This Book: 55 People Tell the Story of the Book That Changed Their Life”. I had been invited to submit a story for that book, and it was chosen for publication.

    As Carol and I worked together, we became friends and had great fun sharing ideas and stories with each other. One day, I asked her how I had gotten an invitation to write a story for the book. I knew Jack slightly, but many people knew him, so I wasn’t sure he had thought of me for this.  Carol said she didn’t know, but she’d ask and find out.

    She called me back, laughing. Someone in Jack’s office was reading another book I was profiled in – “How to Run Your Business Like a Girl” by Elizabeth Cogswell Baskin. They called Elizabeth to ask her to submit a story, and Elizabeth said, “Have you asked Chellie? You have to ask Chellie for a story!” And that’s how I got my invitation.

    But how had I gotten profiled in Elizabeth’s book, you might ask? Elizabeth had gotten an early copy of “The Wealthy Spirit” and called to introduce herself and interview me for her book. See how it works? There aren’t six degrees of separation any more. I think we’re down to two or three!

    The point is, I was chosen to be a role model for happiness because I celebrate little wins. Want to be happier? Find reasons to be happy right now, where you sit, in whatever circumstances you find yourself. Happy without regard to circumstances, but because you’ve chosen to be. You can always find evidence to back up whatever position you choose to hold.

    So today, choose happiness. On a scale of 1-10, 10 being best, how happy are you?

    Bon Jovi

    Posted on December 12th, 2014 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”


    346 – December 12

    “Age is something that doesn’t matter. Unless you are a cheese.”—Billie Burke


    Why does the music business target only teenagers and twenty-somethings? As a middle-aged female, I’m a member of what seems to be the “despised demographic”—the one nobody cares about. Although youth and beauty are lovely qualities, they don’t hold a candle to the ones developed later in life: self-esteem, wisdom, success, depth, and happiness. We still have passion and excitement, and money, too! The Screen Actors Guild reported that Americans over the age of fifty own 77 percent of all financial assets, account for 40 percent of total consumer demand, and control a net worth of nearly $7 trillion. Don’t you think someone in the music business ought to sit up and take notice of that?

    Because I became a Bon Jovi fan at age fifty-two. It took me by surprise. I happened across them on a segment of Behind the Music on VH1 and was struck by the band’s passion and charisma. Joy of life and living throbbed through their music. I watched the entire show, and before long, I was hooked.

    The next day, I bought their greatest hits album and sang along with it for the rest of the week. Then I bought all their other albums and a video and signed up for their fan club.

    I admit I struggled with myself at first. We don’t break out of boxes without interior battles. I’m a grown woman; I own my own business. I’m not a young chicky to be seduced by a heavy metal band. I didn’t think I fit the hard-rock profile at all. I loved Country, Bach, Broadway, and the Beatles. But I broke out of my music box and found a passion for a hard rock band.

    Am I having a mid-life crisis? Have I lost some part of my sanity? Well, maybe I have. But if so, then I recommend it. Lose your sanity; your self-descriptions that keep you locked in your current self, making each day a replay of the last. Life is a banquet; it’s rich spread lies before you in glorious diversity. You may like fried chicken, but if you don’t keep exploring, you may never discover the chicken curry, chicken cacciatore, or Chicken Kiev. White rice is wonderful, but if you stop there, you miss the shrimp fried rice, the rice pilaf, the curried rice, the basmati rice. There’s a world of delightful tastes beyond what you know. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re too old to enjoy it.

    Break out of your music box today. Join another party; feast at another banquet. Eat up life. Who cares if it’s young, or new, or “just not you”? Your capacity for joyful experience is immense, but you have to take it out of the box and use it.

    Who knows?  Maybe I’ll see you at the next Bon Jovi concert…

    Today’s Affirmation: “I’m glad to be alive and enjoying the rich music of life!”

    Beyond the music, as I have followed Bon Jovi, I have been most impressed by Jon Bon Jovi’s business acumen. When I watched a documentary about a recent tour, Jon was on the phone talking to some high level investors about purchasing a football team. Brushing aside his star status as a rock star, he said, “I’m the CEO of a multi-million dollar corporation that’s been running a brand for 25 years.” Whoa. I hadn’t quite looked at him that way before.

    Let that be a lesson to all artists who want to succeed in the entertainment business. Back in my acting days, that lesson was impressed upon me by an old character actor who was on a Screen Actors Guild committee with me. He told me quite succinctly that “show” is an adjective modifying the noun “business”. Never forgot that!

    I saw a video recently of some 8 or 9-year-old boy who, when asked who his favorite band was, enthusiastically replied, “Bon Jovi!” The brand of the band is working strong, attracting new customers in new demographics! Gotta love it.

    What do you enjoy that’s a little outside your box?

    Posted on December 11th, 2014 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    angry man pointing at paperJust Say “No” to Scott Rudin

    I’m posting this special blog today because my old boss, Scott Rudin, is much in the news with the release of Sony executives’ emails because of their recent hacking. I was Scott Rudin’s assistant way back in 1981, when he was the new “boy genius” in Hollywood. Rudin now holds the record for firing assistants, but amazingly I escaped that fate (I imagine because he hadn’t fully grown into that persona yet. But the seeds were there.)

    Here’s the piece I wrote about him in “The Wealthy Spirit” followed by a new bit I wrote for “From Worry to Wealthy” (available for pre-order now):

    “You can say no and smile only when you have a bigger yes burning inside of you.”—Unknown

    I once worked for two titans of the motion picture industry, Edgar Scherick and Scott Rudin. Edgar was the older, more experienced mogul and Scott was the up-and-coming young counterpart. At the time, I was pursuing a career behind the camera in the motion picture industry and was Edgar’s Executive Assistant.

    One day, they fired the office gofer (you know, “go fer” this and “go fer” that). They weren’t going to hire a new one, and the rest of us in the office were anxious about who was going to get the schlepping assignments from then on.

    I decided that it wasn’t going to be me. I was reading a great book at the time, When I Say “No” I Feel Guilty by Manuel Smith. Smith gave wonderful tools for being more assertive and less of a people-pleaser. I knew that if I started doing some of the gofer’s tasks, I would be doomed to that position and respect for me would disappear along with any dreams of advancement. I realized that if I was asked to do this work and refused, I might get fired. But if the price of working there was that I had to be in the lowest dead-end job, then I shouldn’t be there anyway.


    Several days later, Scott and Edgar had a meeting at MGM. Scott always drove the two of them to these meetings, and the gofer would pick up Edgar after the meeting and take him to his next appointment. Edgar knew someone new had to be given this assignment, but didn’t choose anyone. He just walked out of the office saying, “Somebody’s going to have to pick me up at five o’clock at MGM.” The entire staff froze.

    Scott knew then that he had to pick the new gofer. He turned around, saw me and said, “Chellie, pick Edgar up at five o’clock at MGM.”

    My heart pounding, my throat dry, I looked him straight in the eye and said, “No.” Nothing else, just “no.” (The book said not to give your reasons for saying no, or the conversation would degenerate into an argument over the validity of your reasons.)

    He was totally taken aback by this and laughed. He said, “You have to! Pick Edgar up at 5:00!”

    I said, “No” again. (Smith calls this technique “broken record”—just repeat your position.)

    He stared at me for a long moment. I could see the wheels turning in his mind. I held my breath. Was I going to be fired?

    Then Scott turned to the young man seated near him and said, “Fine. Then you do it.” He said, “Okay.” And became the office gofer from then on.

    We have more power of “no” than we know. Two-year-olds know this instinctively, but some adults have forgotten. Find a two-year-old and remember. Then practice.

    Today’s Affirmation: “I make choices that make me happy.”

    Exerpt from “From Worry to Wealthy: A Woman’s Guide to Financial Success Without the Stress”: 

    Another Reason to Say “No” – Wrong Job, Bad Boss, Bad Clients

    Back in the 80s, I worked for Edgar Scherick and Scott Rudin, who was rather the “boy wonder” in his early 20s then. He has since come a very long way up to the top of the Hollywood food chain. Producer of many top-of-the-line films including The Hours, The Addams Family, The Queen, and more recently The Social Network, he has won many honors, including the Academy Award for Best Picture for No Country for Old Men.

    He was also awarded the dubious title of one of “New York’s Worst Bosses” on in 2007 and was profiled in a Wall Street Journal article entitled “Boss-Zilla”. Shudder. One account mentions he once went through 250 assistants in one year (although he claimed he could only count 119) – he was reputed to be the model for the evil producer played by Kevin Spacey in Swimming with Sharks. (I wrote a story about telling Scott “no”, that I wouldn’t run an errand for him. A reader sent me a note saying, “Chellie, you bad-ass! You said ‘no’ to Scott Rudin. That must be on the bucket list of thousands of assistants.”)

    Oh, dear. He wasn’t quite that bad when I worked for him—I’m sure it was fortunate for me that he was in New York most of the time. Actually, I liked and admired him—he was brilliant, creative and quick, and we got along.

    Edgar was the scary one to me. Unlike Scott, he was there every day. He would scream at the top of his lungs and turn red in the face. Once he yelled at a production assistant who hadn’t accomplished a task, jumped up on my desk and pounded the ceiling until plaster rained down on the three of us!

    Picture me as a small animal who freezes in place because motion attracts the predator. When he jumped off the table and looked at me, I just said, “So do you want to call Freddie Fields now?” They told me later he said I was “unflappable.” Nope, frozen stiff is what I was, but redirection was a tool I found handy for survival.

    I had taken the job with Scott because I wanted to be a producer’s assistant. I figured I would get an overview of all the jobs in the film industry and then I could decide if there was a job I wanted to do on the other side of the camera. But the two years I spent with Scott and Edgar convinced me that it was no place for me. There was just too much yelling. I felt I’d have to become used to that, or become a screamer myself, and I just didn’t have it in me to do either. I remember the day I opened up the want ads and prayed, “Please God, please—help me find a nice little bookkeeping job again with nice, normal people.”

    And soon enough, off I went. Pretty good move, too, as it turned out. It was there that I developed my Financial Stress Reduction® Workshops. I love my life!

    And there’s no yelling.

    Channel KGOD

    Posted on December 11th, 2014 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”


    345 – December 11

    “Two hundred seventy-eight channels and there’s nothing on. Time to turn on the God channel.”—Lisa Morrice


    It’s hard for any one of those two hundred seventy-eight channels to hold my attention for long. I zip by them with my trusty remote, a kaleidoscope of whirling colors and images: Arctic explorers in a blinding snowstorm, “snow” on a channel that doesn’t come through, thoroughfares in downtown London, a Dove soap commercial (I watch to see their current trend; maybe I could do another commercial for them), sitcom, sitcom, cartoon, no, no, zip, zip, zip.

    I stop at James Lipton interviewing Neil Simon on Inside the Actors Studio. I’ve seen it but I watch it again, because Neil makes me laugh. Bravo, Bravo. Commercial, zip, a gorgeous hunk throws another gorgeous hunk to the wrestling mat—ouch!—zip, a panting girl suddenly screams, a knife, blood—ick—zip! Zen music: I relax. The men and women on the Korean channel are gorgeous in their ancient regalia, but I don’t speak Korean and it’s subtitled in another oriental language. Zip.

    A couple of religious channels, but the big hair is pink and the mascara’s running and I don’t think this is the God channel I’m looking for. Zip. Roy Dupuis, playing Michael on La Femme Nikita. Thud. Now there’s a God. I tape this to drool over later.

    VH1 has the “whatever happened to” stories and they’re fun but I zip by after I find out David Cassidy is happy now. I’m glad. I met his mom once, Shirley Jones. Lisa Morrice and I had a singing gig at The Oaks spa in Ojai and I was singing my solo, Desperado, at dinner just as Shirley walked in with her husband, Marty Ingles. Perfect. The best soprano in the world walks in while I’m singing my toughest song…she was very gracious and complimented both of us. (I’m eternally grateful for that kindness, Shirley.)

    Out of the depth of my reminiscent dream, a sudden thought freezes the remote in my hand.

    I’ve had adventures. Why am I watching other people on television talk about their adventures? I need to go out and have more adventures of my own! And if I think I ever want to be on television myself, I’d better write about my adventures. Write. I can’t watch one more person, real or fictional, talk about the life I want to be leading. I need to lead it.

    Channel KGOD has broken through. “This is the day that the Lord hath made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it.” I smile. I get up. I go. I write. Who knows? If I play my cards right, I may get to meet Roy Dupuis.

    Today’s Affirmation: “I rejoice and am glad in the adventures of my day today!”

    I saw a funny T-shirt in a catalogue that really tickled me: “I have OCD and ADD. That means I have to be perfect but not for very long.”

    Well, this page is a clear illustration of my ADD tendencies. Hee. I admit I still love channel surfing and watching bits of lots of programs. When I’m home and there are two shows I want to see that are on at the same time, I DVR one of them on the TV in my bedroom and watch the other one live in the kitchen.

    It was a dangerous step for me to get a DVR. There are so many programs and I begin to feel trapped by my “obligatory TV”! If I carved out time to watch everything I thought was interesting, you’d never see me again. I’d turn into one of those pod people from “The Matrix”…

    I admit to being a singing competition junkie – all of them: The VoiceAmerican Idol, X Factor…reminds me of my singing audition days as an actress, and I love watching those talented kids hone their skills as they compete. Glee gets a little silly but all those kids can sing! And I still get drawn in to Survivor and all the shifting alliances. Love Game of Thrones (read all the books) – I’ve always been a fan of costume dramas.  I can watch the History or Science Channels anytime and find something interesting, and poker wherever I find it on the game channel or the World Series of Poker on ESPN. Of course I get all the premium channels so can always find a good movie…

    So what do you like to watch? And how do you keep from getting lost in all of that?

    Own a Nightclub

    Posted on December 10th, 2014 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”


    344 – December 10

    “I wanted so badly to study ballet. But it was really all about wearing the tutu.”—Elle MacPherson


    “I want to own a nightclub!” crowed Laura. Middle-aged and with a sunny personality, Laura lit up every room she walked in to with her positive energy. She had a million-watt smile and a can-do attitude and I knew she could do anything she wanted to do.

    “What interests you about owning a nightclub?” I asked. Laura was currently working as a massage therapist, and nightclub ownership looked like a very different career step.

    “I just love to dance!” she replied. “I go dancing just about every night. I love the music and the people I meet and everything about it.”

    “Have you ever worked in a nightclub?” I pursued.


    Immediately, I went in to “Goal Getting” mode: “I recommend that you get a job in a nightclub so you can learn what it takes to run one successfully. You need to learn about the financing, marketing, promotion, food and beverage, hiring acts or DJs, etc. You can take some classes at the local community college, too. Ask the owner of the nightclubs you go to if they will give you some advice….”

    There were thunderclouds racing across Laura’s face. I saw the “Yeah, but” before it issued from her mouth. Oh, resistance, you drag your feet across all our lives….

    “I don’t want to get a job in a nightclub,” Laura protested. “I just want to own it, and go there and have fun!”

    “Well, if you don’t learn how to run it, you probably won’t own it for long!” I exclaimed.

    Laura stopped and looked at me pityingly. “Chellie,” she said, “I don’t really want to own a nightclub. I just want to have the fantasy of owning a nightclub.”

    We stared at each other for a moment…then we cracked up laughing. “Okay!” I said. “The Fantasy Island nightclub is yours!”


    Fantasies add a lot of pleasure to our lives. They’re dream diversions, escapes from everyday realities, and playgrounds for our minds. Enjoy them, and let others enjoy them, too. We don’t have to take action on all of them. Let someone else do the ownership thing. Go dancing. In a tutu. Dream on.

    Today’s Affirmation: “I am dancing in the sunlight and moonlight of my life!”

    I remember this incident like it was yesterday, even though it was about 15 years ago. It was pretty funny at the time, and still puts a smile on my face. There is a lot of room in our consciousness for fantasy lives – things we can dream about without having to actually do the hard work of trying to manifest! Maria Nemeth, in her book “The Energy of Money” talks about there being a metaphysical reality and a physical reality, with a border in between them. She said lots of people are having trouble at the border!

    Have fun with your dreams, the fun fantasies that make you smile, where you try on the life of a rock star, a movie mogul, or president of the United States. When one of those dreams strikes your fancy so hard that you’re willing to work to achieve them, create an action plan and then get to work. If your goal is juicy enough, just working on achieving it will also be juicy! And I think that’s the point of it all – choose goals that make life fun just working to achieve it.

    What makes today juicy for you?