Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

56 – February 25

“Do or do not. There is no try.”—Yoda in Star Wars by George Lucas


Punkin, Corinne’s cat, had just had kittens. Five of the cutest little calico kitties you could imagine. I hadn’t had a pet in years, and had always had dogs. Now I thought it might be fun to have a cat. So, on this bright June afternoon, I visited Corinne, Punkin and the kittens in order to choose one for my own.

The littlest, scaredy-cat, runt of the litter with the big ears and wide golden eyes was mine the minute I saw her. “She looks like Yoda from Star Wars,” I declared, and that promptly became my kitten’s name. I told Corrine I wanted her, but was going on vacation in a couple of weeks and didn’t want to leave the kitten alone, so could I please leave her there and pick her up after I got home? Corinne thought about this and said okay, but pressed me to make sure I was committed to owning this cat. She wanted to make sure I wasn’t going to change my mind and bail out of the deal at the last minute. I gave her my assurances, but could tell Corinne wasn’t totally convinced.

I left Corinne’s house and immediately went to the pet store to go shopping for my new kitty! I bought her food bowl, her water dish, some play toys, lots of cat food, a litter box, and a big, carpeted cat tree. After I unloaded all my cat loot at home, I called Corinne.

“I just spent $150 on my cat,” I told her. “I’m committed!”

(Continued on page 56 of The Wealthy Spirit)

Today’s Affirmation: “I relish the commitments I make and keep.”


There is another kind of commitment – the commitment to your friends. To stand by them, support them and love them, and sometimes to do so publicly.

My friend, Rhonda Britten, starred in the NBC Emmy Award winning television show Starting Over, in which a number of women with problems to solve and goals to accomplish lived together in a house for several months and received coaching from two or three coaches. Rhonda was terrific and amazingly talented at creating strategies to help these women.

The second season, one of the coaches was replaced by someone else who was more well-known. But she turned out to be a bit of a diva and treated Rhonda badly. This is what Rhonda had to say about her experience:

She – and this is my perception – walked on the show exhausted, with little to give. She overcompensated with a huge chip on her shoulder that came with a sense of entitlement and yes, what appeared to be a big head. Yes, I get that it was just a mask for fear. Yes, I get that she was spinning out of control. Yes, I get that she was trying to protect herself. Yes, I had, and have, deep compassion for her. And on a human level, it was difficult to be the receiver of her rolling eyes, sharp comments and looks of disgust day in and day out.

“If she could one up me, she did. If she could get more TV time by walking over my coaching moments, she did. If she could mutter under her breath some put down that no one else could hear but me and the audio people, she did.”

Well, you know, I just can’t be a fan of someone who treated my friend like that.

Many people asked Rhonda what she felt about this woman’s appearance and if she had forgiven her. She wrote about how she felt and I marveled at her bravery in discussing it publicly. Some of the people who commented on her blog took her to task for not having forgiven and forgotten, like we should all be saints and forgive regardless of the provocation. I think Rhonda has forgiven her.

But I’m still working on it…

I know we all struggle from time to time with forgiveness when we’ve been hurt. I find I can more easily forgive those who have hurt me than those who have hurt people I love. I was there when Rhonda cried over the agony of trying to work with this woman when she undermined her at every turn, made cutting remarks, tried to assume the lead position and put her down at every opportunity. I remember how Rhonda put all of her bad behavior aside and tried to help her.

If she ever reaches out to Rhonda and makes a true apology, my forgiveness of her can begin. Not until then. People can say what they like about that – maybe I’m not all that spiritual after all.  Sometimes Demon Chellie pushes Saint Chellie aside. But I think we’re supposed to be discriminating, and not fall for Sharks in Dolphin’s clothing. Oprah is fond of saying, “When people show you who they are, believe them.” I know you by your actions, not your words. I never met an obnoxious con-man.

What hurt my friend hurts me. My close friends know this: Don’t make the redhead mad.

Prosperity is a habit. You have to practice it every day.

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Chellie Campbell is a Financial Stress Reduction® Coach and the author of The Wealthy Spirit, Zero to Zillionaire, and From Worry to Wealthy. She is one of Marci Shimoff's “Happy 100” in her NYT bestseller Happy for No Reason and contributed stories to Jack Canfield’s books You’ve Got to Read This Book! and Life Lessons from Chicken Soup for the Soul. Past president of the LA Chapter NAWBO, she was "Most Inspirational Speaker" by Women in Management and "Speaker of the Year" by the Association of Women Entrepreneurs. She does daily inspirational videos in The Wealthy Spirit Group on Facebook.

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