Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”
27 – January 27
“About all you can do in life is be who you are. Some people will love you for you. Most will love you for what you can do for them, and some won’t like you at all.”—Rita Mae Brown
As I’ve gone through life, I’ve been greatly influenced by wonderful self-help books by marvelous teachers, giving me life lessons in moments of illumination. One such moment came from a passage in Wayne Dyer’s book Your Erroneous Zones, where he reminds us that half of the people in the world aren’t going to like you, and there’s nothing you can do about it.
I was shocked. It was definitely an “Aha!” moment. I had been raised to be a good girl, a people-pleaser, always trying to make sure everyone around me was happy and that I didn’t offend anyone with any statement or act. What an impossible task! Doomed to failure and making me nervous and unhappy when I couldn’t please everyone. I was one of those people who would go to a party, find ninety-nine people out of one hundred liked me, but follow around the one who didn’t, trying to change their mind.
How much money is lost in life by people chasing people who don’t like them, trying to make them happy? It can be a boss, a client, or a family member. This person clearly isn’t one of Your People. Let them go! You will never please them, satisfy them or measure up to their vision of how you ought to be. You’ll make yourself crazy spending any time or effort on them…
(continued on page 27 of The Wealthy Spirit)
Today’s Affirmation: “All My People praise me and pay me!”
You know who your people are – their faces light up when they see you. Don’t you love that?
You can tell who they are when you call them, too. I was making Gold Calls on my Gold Phone the other day and two calls really stuck out in my mind.
Call number one:
“Hi, this is Chellie,” I said when the woman answered the phone.
“Yes?” she said flatly.
Thinking she didn’t remember me, I said, “I spoke at the meeting last month – I’m the author of The Wealthy Spirit…”
“I know who you are,” she broke in flatly. Then silence.
Eew. I could just tell by the tone of her voice that she wasn’t delighted to hear from me. So I just briefly explained that I had a class coming up and would she be interested in receiving some information about it? No, thanks, and we were done.
Call number two:
“Hi, this is Chellie,” I said again.
“Oh, my goodness, really? I am so delighted to hear from you!” she bubbled. “I am so glad you called!”
Ah, isn’t that just what you want to hear? The door was open for a wonderful conversation, and yes, she is interested in my class, too.
How long does it take you to figure out if someone is happy you called or not?