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    The Tenth Archer

    Posted on March 21st, 2012 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    80-March 21

    “Difficulty, my brethren, is the nurse of greatness—a harsh nurse, who roughly rocks her foster-children into strength and athletic proportion.”—William C. Bryant

     

    A perfect day on a field of dreams. Sunshine casts its radiant light on the target that all desire to hit. The golden bow and silver arrow await the archers, ready to be used to their highest purpose.

    The first archer takes the field confidently. He notches the arrow, pulls back the bow, and the slings the arrow straight and true across the grass. Bulls eye! Cheers resound from the gathered watchers and the archer retires with a smile.

    The second archer approaches. Reverently, she picks up the golden bow and sends the silver arrow straight to the target. Another hit! More cheers and smiles.

    Seven more archers appear with gratitude for their opportunity, lift the bow, and seven times over, the arrow meets the target. The air shimmers with glory and joy.

    The tenth archer approaches anxiously. Filled with doubt and dismay, fearful that he alone might miss the target, he tenses as he lifts the bow. The arrow goes wide and is lost in the grass.

    In misery and embarrassment, he exclaims, “Damn bow and arrow!” as he leaves the field.

    But the tenth archer knows that the fault is in his aim, in his arm, in his mind. He will rise tomorrow, early in the morning mist, and make his way once more to the practice ground. On that day, and many days to follow, he will lift the golden bow and shoot silver arrows hour after hour, until they find their mark deep in the heart of the target. At the next contest, his aim true, he will prevail.

    Thus he will have earned the cheers of the crowd—and he will get them.

    Are you hitting your targets? Or do you need more practice? More strength? Better thoughts? Better aim?

    Today’s Affirmation: “With confidence, reverence, and gratitude, I am always successful!”

     

    “In each life there comes at least one moment which, if recognized and seized, transforms the course of that life forever. Rely, therefore, on radical trust, even though the moment may call for you to leap, empty-handed into the void.”—Ralph Blum

    Every winner knows that leap of faith. Someone told me once that “A leap of faith is not a leap from Point A to Point B. It’s a leap from Point A.”

    Once you decide to leap, you need three things to succeed:

    1.      Positive belief in yourself and your ability to succeed

    2.      Positive action to back up your belief

    3.      A Coach, teacher or mentor to guide, motivate, and inspire you

    The Law of Attraction says like attracts like. You have to believe you can succeed at accomplishing your goal. See yourself winning the job, the race, the contest. See yourself on the podium accepting the award. No Olympians got there by thinking “I’ll never make it.”

    The Law of Action says you can’t just sit around doing affirmations on your couch, eating potato chips, and watching television and expect your goals to drop in on you after dinner. Can you name one Olympic medalist who just did positive thinking but never worked out? You are what you consistently do, and being successful at anything takes practice.

    A Coach helps you get your goals quicker. They show you what you’re missing, where you fall short, what needs improvement. They encourage you and lift you up. They give you a road map to the future, offering support, guidance, instruction, knowledge, new ideas, and short cuts. What sports figure doesn’t have one?

    When you’ve got these three things operating in your life every day, congratulations! Now you need one more:

    4. Peristence

    This is where most people fail. Success requires consistency. One of my favorite quotes is this:

    “I write only when I’m inspired. Fortunately, I’m inspired every morning at 9:00.”—William Faulkner

    Some people would rather believe that others are just more naturally talented, or luckier, or richer, or better connected, and that’s why so-and-so’s a success and they’re not. People are always saying to me, “But Chellie, it’s easy for you. You’re a natural and an extrovert!” It’s just not so. I was so nervous when I first started going to networking groups, my hands shook and my legs barely held me up. I stood around and waited for people to come over and talk to me, like a wallflower at a dance.

    Then I got a coach, took workshops and seminars, read business books, motivational books, and watched other successful people to figure out how they did it. I tried and failed many times before I succeeded. The truth is you have to practice over and over and fail over and over before you discover how to actualize your dream in physical reality. Just because you got ten nos in a row doesn’t mean you’ll never make it. They’re just training exercises.

    That’s the gig here on the Earth plane. That’s why you have to love what you do – because otherwise you’ll give up when it gets hard.

    Success is a percentage game and it’s not a big percentage. An article in Card Player magazine compared a salesperson and a poker player thusly:

    “Thnk of a salesperson working on 100 percent commission. He wakes up every morning with no guarantees. He could go out there and close every prospect he has, or he could get destroyed. There are no guarantees. But he has a certain talent that makes him better than the norm, and that talent shows up every day. If he goes on enough appointments, his talent – his “edge” over his competition – shows up enough times to become statistically significant. It’s a numbers game. The more effectively he manages his time and appointments, the more his edge is converted into profit.”

    Being in your own business is very challenging. You have to believe in yourself and your product or service so completely it makes you enthusiastic and motivated to do the work. That’s what attracts customers and makes you able to handle the sales routines and the “nos” along the way.

    When I leaped full-time in the workshop business, I knew I had a wonderful service that really produced more income for people, but I didn’t know if I could sell enough workshops to actually make a living at it. But I had to try. If I gave up, getting a “real job” was my next option and that was so horrible to contemplate that I just kept picking up the phone and talking to people. It didn’t matter how many people said “no” or “not now” – I just thought of them as ships that were still sailing out there carrying my message. I had a woman in my workshop who told me that she had been wanting to take my class for 13 years! The important thing for was to keep calling people until I got enough yeses to pay my bills. Fear drove me a bit, but hope of achieving my goals and attaining my dreams drove me more. With practice, I got better at it and enrolled a higher percentage of people. My workshops improved as my own skills improved. And my financial picture brightened along with them.

    Like the Tenth Archer, the problem wasn’t in the telephone, my office, or the economy. It’s a simple business really. Network to meet prospects, call them and enroll a percentage of them, teach the workshop. The more you practice, the better the results.

    Now it’s so much fun to help people prosper and prosper myself while doing it. I love my life!

    Alcoholics Anonymous

    Posted on March 20th, 2012 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    79-March 20

    “If you have made mistakes, even serious ones, there is always another chance for you. What we call failure is not the falling down, but the staying down.”—Mary Pickford

     

    My name is Chellie C., and I’m an alcoholic. This is my story of what it was like, what happened and what it is like now. For many years, I drowned my problems in alcohol. Drinking was a habit, my coping mechanism of choice, which increased over time until it got out of control. It started with having a glass of wine when I got home from work. Then two. In classic alcoholic denial, I bought bigger glasses so I could still say I only had two glasses of wine.

    One day, with my liquor cabinet practically bare, I went to the grocery store to stock up. I went up to the checkout counter with a bottle of cabernet, a bottle of Merlot, some Chardonnay, Chablis, vodka, gin, bourbon, tequila, Marguerita mix, Bloody Mary mix, some assorted liqueurs—altogether I think I had about twelve bottles in my shopping cart—and some chips.

    The woman at the checkout stand started ringing up each bottle, smiled and said knowingly, “Having a party?” Not getting it, I said, “No.” I will never forget the look on that woman’s face. I remember with stark clarity the utter humiliation I felt as I realized that if I was buying twelve bottles of booze, I should be having a party!

    That night, I had to face the fact that I was incapable of going a single day without drinking. I had a good friend who always went to an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting on Wednesday nights. She sounded pretty excited when I called and asked if I could go to the meeting with her. Apparently, she’d been “saving a seat” for me. There I met a wonderful community of people who had faced their demons and were helping others along with themselves to live life clean and sober. I made a commitment to sobriety that night and I threw away every bottle of alcohol in my house.

    Old habits die hard, but if you are determined, die they do. In the next months, I had to face every defect of my character and feel all the feelings that I had used alcohol to avoid. Sometimes after meetings, I would go to my car and collapse in sobs over the steering wheel. Kindly souls knocked on the window and asked if I was all right. But breakdowns will lead eventually to breakthrough, if you are committed. As they say in AA, “It works if you work it.” I grew into a new life and a new self. I deepened and matured. New awareness came to consciousness, and a deeper empathy for people. I cleared away the wreckage of the past and built a better life and a bigger bank account at the same time.

    Is there a battle you are fighting? You don’t have to fight it alone. Help is available. You just have to reach out and find it.

    Today’s Affirmation: “I have a wonderful community of friends who help me grow and prosper!”

     

    Are You Living Your Passions?

    by guest blogger, Janice Christopher, Certified Passion Test Facilitator and Radio Show Host (And I’m on her show at 4:00 pm PT today! Here’s the link to read about it and the link to listen live: http://http://rockstarradionetwork.com/shows/whatsidealforyou/articles/2686)

    Have you ever noticed how some people seem to be successful, happy and living their life purpose; yet others seem to be stuck in a rut, going though life unhappy, unfulfilled and in a job they don’t like? That’s why I love sharing The Passion Test – it’s a systematic process for helping you discover your passions and true calling in life.

    I’ll bet you’ve met some of them…both the happy and the unhappy ones. Where do you fit? Are you loving your life or getting by on the groundhog-day treadmill? Happy and Engaged much of the time, or rushing to check things off your “to do” list?

    One thing I know for sure: When we live our passions, no matter how simple they may be, we attract better energy. Doors open, Synchronistic events happen that make the path smoother for us. We laugh, celebrate, and shake our heads while grinning in delight at the wonder of it all. I want that for you!

    You can start figuring out your passions right this minute. It’s really quite simple. Take a sheet of paper, and a pen or two. (Choose materials that inspire you for best results!). At the top, write this sentence fragment: “When My Life is Ideal, I am…..” Great! Now, finish the sentence ~ fill in the blank. Think about all of the different areas of your life. What’s ideal for you in finances, in health, in relationships, in your career, in how you spend your time, environments. Make 10 sentences. Here are a few examples:

    When My Life is Ideal I am…

    Lean, fit, healthy and strong

    Eating only organic foods

    Financially free to do what I want, when I want to

    Traveling the world first class and immersing myself in other cultures

    Deeply connected with Nature

    Enjoying a fabulous, juicy relationship with my sweetie

    80% of Americans dislike their work. And those “Bad Vibes” spill over into finances, relationships and health. By discovering your passions and integrating them into your daily routine, life becomes more positive. Making better financial choices becomes easier, and bringing your positive light to the world becomes natural. You’ll love your life again, and you’ll be on the path to discovering you personal destiny, too.

    I’m delighted to interview Chellie on my show, called “What’s Ideal for You” on the Rockstar Radio Network, and make the connection between living our passions and being a Financial Rockstar. I can’t help but think that Happy Finances and a Happy Life go hand in hand. Sprinkle in a little passion…and wa-la! A Happy You!

    Janice Christopher had a 25 year career as a Certified Financial Planner with a major NY firm. Today, she’s living her passion of inspiring her radio listeners to ask “What really is ideal for me?” You can connect with her at www.whatsidealforyou.com. Her show is easy to find at www.rockstarradionetwork.com/shows/whatsidealforyou. Chellie will appear on Tuesday March 21st at 7 central, or you can download the podcast from iTunes after the show.

     

     

     

     

     

    Get Rid of the “I’m So Tired Blues”

    Posted on March 19th, 2012 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    78-March 19

    “Never get in a battle of wits without ammunition.”—American Proverb

     

    How many times do you start a conversation with someone asking, “How are you?” and receive the answer, “I’m so tired?” What a disempowering response! It’s a negative affirmation. Then they probably follow that statement with a whole explanation of their problems, their overwhelm, their duties and responsibilities, the crosses they have to bear. Who wants to hear that?

    If you are guilty of saying, “I’m so tired,” you need to develop a new habit. Start saying “I’m great—thanks for asking!” or “I’m wonderful—how are you?” If someone tells you they’re tired, change the energy of the conversation immediately by focusing them on something good. Here are some sample responses:

    “I imagine you have an active, creative life filled with wonderful activities!”

    “That must mean business is great and your life is full of wonderful friends!”

    You get the idea. It just might get them refocused in a positive direction. If they really just want to complain, they will eventually try to find someone less upbeat than you. Great! Let all the “Ain’t it Awful” people hang out together and count you out. You go find the energetic people who want to talk about how great things are and getting better, too. Be about success, energy and joy every minute. Even when you’re resting. Get lots of rest and relaxation. Mellow out. Joyfully!

    Keep your goals in front of you every day. Keep your action plan to achieve your goals where you can review it often. Eliminate activities that do not move you forward toward your goals, unless they are fun, restful, fulfilling, enjoyable, balancing activities that fill you with energy rather than deplete your energy. If it’s not fun, don’t do it. Pay somebody else to do it—you’ll both be happier.

    “I’m so tired.” Bah. Tell it to your cat.

    Today’s Affirmation: “Everything I do makes me richer and richer!”

     

    Be somebody who lights up the room. Not someone who dampens it.

    I don’t mean you have to run around like Little Mary Sunshine, always happy no matter what, never telling your best friend what’s bothering you. Sometimes you’re not going to feel great; the dog is sick, you lost a big account, the microwave broke (and the dishwasher, too—we’re not fond of Thermidor in our household right now).

    Just don’t share your cranky bad temper with everyone you meet. Especially at work, a business meeting, or a networking group. That’s when you need to be “on” as in onstage. That’s where you need to be presenting your best self. You are your own walking advertisement for your products and services, and people will remember how they felt around you.

    You want them to remember happy, upbeat, confident, fabulous, intelligent, “can do!” you. Not cranky, overwhelmed, rushed, worried you.

    Debbie Downer isn’t going to get the referrals—Freddy Fabulous is.

    Get it?

    Operating from Joy

    Posted on March 18th, 2012 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    77-March 18

    “Only one person in a thousand knows the trick of really living in the present. Most of us spend fifty-nine minutes an hour living in the past, with regret for lost joys or shame for things badly done…or in a future which we either long for or dread. There is only one minute in which you are alive, this minute, here and now.”—Storm Jameson

     

    Successful people operate from anticipated joy, while others operate from current pain. Successful people have goals that excite them, that they are passionate about; they can see, taste, smell, feel the future reality they are endeavoring to create. They design their daily activities in harmony with where they want to go, rather than where they are now.

    Successful people aren’t on overwhelm; they make their time count. They are energized from being in action; the energy pours from them as from an overflowing well. They are happy in the pursuit of their pleasures. The dream has power and they are determined to attain it. They are working their plan for success. This enables them to say “Yes!” to the things that move them forward towards their goals and “No” to the things that are off-purpose. They don’t waste their time and their energy on too many pursuits. They know they can do everything they want to do, just not all at once.

    (Continued on page 77 of The Wealthy Spirit)

    Today’s Affirmation: “I am full of joyful energy, and all my dreams come true!”

     

    A friend sent me this letter last year from a woman in Sendai, Japan, and it’s such a great lesson in balance, perspective, and how people are really good at heart, I had to post it here today:

    Date: March 13, 2011 3:55:14 AM EDT

    Subject: Blessings

    Hello My Lovely Family and Friends,

    First I want to thank you so very much for your concern for me. I am very touched. I also wish to apologize for a generic message to you all. But it seems the best way at the moment to get my message to you.

    Things here in Sendai have been rather surreal. But I am very blessed to have wonderful friends who are helping me a lot. Since my shack is even more worthy of that name, I am now staying at a friend’s home. We share supplies like water, food and a kerosene heater. We sleep lined up in one room, eat by candlelight, share stories. It is warm, friendly, and beautiful.

    During the day we help each other clean up the mess in our homes. People sit in their cars, looking at news on their navigation screens, or line up to get drinking water when a source is open. If someone has water running in their home, they put out sign so people can come to fill up their jugs and buckets.

    Utterly amazingly where I am there has been no looting, no pushing in lines. People leave their front door open, as it is safer when an earthquake strikes. People keep saying, “Oh, this is how it used to be in the old days when everyone helped one another.”

    Quakes keep coming. Last night they struck about every 15 minutes. Sirens are constant and helicopters pass overhead often.

    We got water for a few hours in our homes last night, and now it is for half a day. Electricity came on this afternoon. Gas has not yet come on. But all of this is by area. Some people have these things, others do not. No one has washed for several days. We feel grubby, but there are so much more important concerns than that for us now. I love this peeling away of non-essentials. Living fully on the level of instinct, of intuition, of caring, of what is needed for survival, not just of me, but of the entire group.

    There are strange parallel universes happening. Houses a mess in some places, yet then a house with futons or laundry out drying in the sun. People lining up for water and food, and yet a few people out walking their dogs. All happening at the same time.

    Other unexpected touches of beauty are first, the silence at night. No cars. No one out on the streets. And the heavens at night are scattered with stars. I usually can see about two, but now the whole sky is filled. The mountains are Sendai are solid and with the crisp air we can see them silhouetted against the sky magnificently.

    And the Japanese themselves are so wonderful. I come back to my shack to check on it each day, now to send this e-mail since the electricity is on, and I find food and water left in my entranceway. I have no idea from whom, but it is there. Old men in green hats go from door to door checking to see if everyone is OK. People talk to complete strangers asking if they need help. I see no signs of fear. Resignation, yes, but fear or panic, no.

    They tell us we can expect aftershocks, and even other major quakes, for another month or more. And we are getting constant tremors, rolls, shaking, rumbling. I am blessed in that I live in a part of Sendai that is a bit elevated, a bit more solid than other parts. So, so far this area is better off than others.  Last night my friend’s husband came in from the country, bringing food and water. Blessed again.

    Somehow at this time I realize from direct experience that there is indeed an enormous Cosmic evolutionary step that is occurring all over the world right at this moment. And somehow as I experience the events happening now in Japan, I can feel my heart opening very wide. My brother asked me if I felt so small because of all that is happening. I don’t. Rather, I feel as part of something happening that much larger than myself. This wave of birthing (worldwide) is hard, and yet magnificent.

    Thank you again for your care and Love of me,

    With Love in return, to you all,
    Anne

    Carmen the Waitress

    Posted on March 17th, 2012 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    76-March 17

    “Praise, like gold and diamonds, owes its value only to its scarcity.”—Samuel Butler

     

    I have been very blessed in this life with a wonderful, supportive, loving family. My two sisters are married with children, and live within two blocks of each other in Chatsworth, California. (They family joke is they used to live six blocks from each other, but they couldn’t stand the commute.) I get to be the auntie, and developed the tradition of taking the kids out for a day trip each year for their birthdays.

    One year, the kids and I decided we wanted to go to Disneyland, and since this was a big, fun trip, all the other adults in the family wanted to come, too. So there were eleven of us: Two moms, two dads, grandpa, me and five kids ranging in age from 1-19. After a great day of seeing sights, riding rides, and shopping ‘til we dropped, we all trouped into a restaurant at the Disneyland Hotel to have dinner.

    Hungry and tired parties of eleven, including a baby in a highchair, must seem daunting to most waitresses. But not Carmen. She was bright, she was cheerful, and she managed to make everybody happy. She got the special orders with no problem, all the changes so the kids were happy, and was efficient and upbeat the entire time. She was great!

    At the end of the meal, I excused myself, went to the front desk and asked to see the manager. The hostess tensed when I made my request, and said she’d be back in a minute. I saw her go back into the kitchen and speak briefly with a young man. His shoulders slumped, he hung his head for a moment, then braced himself, straightened his tie and started walking out to see me. When he reached me, he asked tensely, “You wanted to speak to the manager?” As I said, “Yes,” I noticed several other employees were hovering around, trying to look inconspicuous, but very interested in what was going to happen. Some patrons had stopped eating and were listening, too. I was going to have fun giving them all an earful—an earful of praise.

    As I proceeded to tell this young man every wonderful thing I could think of to say about Carmen, his restaurant, and everybody in it, his smile began to turn into a grin and he blushed with pleasure. The other employees started grinning, too, and nodded to each other. The hostess beamed and the patrons caught the smiles also. It was really fun! He thanked me, and said, “You made my day.” I said, “You made mine, too!”

    Make someone’s day—and you’ll find you make yours, too. Never miss a chance to pass along a compliment or a kind word. It’s so easy! People are praise hungry. Feed them.

    Today’s Affirmation: “I am a praise-making machine, and I’m making a lot of it today!”

     

    Sometimes as hard as you try, as much as you plan, something disastrous happens and all your wonderful ideas land in the black mud instead of hitting pay dirt.

    All you can do is grit your teeth and repeat “There are no problems, only opportunities for growth” and move on. Once we think we’ve got the lesson, bang! We get it again. Sigh. Read below about my free teleclass snafu one October – you may be surprised at what the real lesson turned out to be. It was one I knew was important, but hadn’t thought about in awhile…

    Hi, Dolphin Friends,

    Thank you so much for registering for my complimentary call “Confidence, Charisma, and Cash”. I was delighted to chat with you all who got the message of the correct access code in time to join in. Thanks – it really was so much fun!

    We had a big major OOPS!

    Somehow, the access code number that was sent in your confirmation letter got transposed and was incorrect. As soon as we recognized the problem (thanks for all the calls and emails y’all) we sent out a notice to everyone with the correct number but a lot of you didn’t get it in time to make the call.

    (Isn’t that just like the WORST thing you can think of to happen to you if you’re giving a call?? Sheesh. It’s like you invited everyone to a party and then gave them the wrong address…)

    Oh, well. Overcoming obstacles and surviving the Breakdown so you can Breakthrough is a big part of becoming successful – its Class 6 in my 8-week workshop, so I am just filing this one under “S**t happens” and moving on to recovery!

    So here’s what I’m gonna do…

    And then I gave the Encore call information, and we had that one on Saturday. I called it “Take 2” just like in the movies.

    I created this email to go out to everyone on my list, but I also sent it individually with a personal note to each person who had emailed me about the problem to thank them.

    I hope you have read this far, because here is the gem you need to know about situations like this: “Your People” love you and are pulling for you through thick and thin. They have your back. I received some of the most beautiful, loving, supportive notes from my Dolphins, like these:

    “Thank you Chellie for a wonderful call yesterday. I thoroughly enjoyed it and loved your example of how to handle a bump in the process. It was so graceful and I learned so much on how to break through during break downs. You ROCK Chellie!!!!! Can’t wait for my workshop. I’m a lucky person and I am surrounded by a powerful winning force!!!”—Kimberley Steinke

    “It was awesome! Thanks Chellie! Way to demonstrate how to powerfully deal with a breakdown…you rock!”—Michelle Maher Ford

    “Talk about making lemonade aide out of lemons. You really took what might have a very negative situation and used it to teach lessons & make people feel empathy…Aside from how great your material / delivery/ etc were, the way you handled the challenge could not have been better if you would have set up the circumstance to teach the lesson. Not that you would do that considering like you said you had about 500 people registered…But listening to you, well, as usual my friend, you are an example of how most of us out there want to shine. Thanks for always lighting the path. xoxox, gratefully yours—Zeda Spiegel

    “Thank you for the info and the upcoming encore “performance”! I made it to the call late but enjoyed you thoroughly!! Great information and tons of fun. LOVE your sense of humor and stories. Your glitch was a “gift wrapped in sandpaper.” Have an abundant day!!—Donna from New Jersey

    Warming in the glow of these lovely notes, I remembered back to a similar situation when a bunch of my ships – which I had proudly announced in a newsletter – unceremoniously sunk. TV show cancelled, radio show cancelled, magazine review cancelled. Arggh. So I wrote about that, too. Over 160 people wrote me to share their sunken ship stories, to thank me for sharing honestly, and to give me encouragement!

    I reread what I had written about that event in my book, Zero to Zillionaire:

    “How can you continue to feel bad about a few silly sunken ships when you are surrounded by loving friends like these? It was a great lesson to me to continue to open up, to be vulnerable, that sometimes love comes more easily to you when you need a shoulder to cry on and a cup of tea than when the world is cheering you from the stands. We think we get love from being fabulous and successful and rich, but that isn’t it. Sometimes that’s an impenetrable wall that keeps people isolated. Being perfect is not the best way to reach people. Being vulnerable is. People want to know you need them. People want to know you’re like them Everyone has sinking ships, everyone cries in the night, everyone needs a pat on the back and a hanky upon occasion. Your Dolphin friends love to be there for you when they can see through the chinks in your walls to your tender heart within. Open up. Let them in.”

    Love really is all that matters in the end.

    Praise and Acknowledgment

    Posted on March 16th, 2012 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    75-March 16

    “Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness: Kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile.”—Mother Teresa

    Most of the people I know respond to praise like a thirsty dog getting a drink of water—they lap it up and glow. Unfortunately, some people would rather throw water on you than give you water to drink. But who wants to talk to them? People love being acknowledged for being wonderful. It makes them feel good. It also makes them feel good about you! A motivational speaker I know, Suzy Prudden, calls regularly and asks how I’m doing. When I say “Great!” she always says, “That’s true about you!” I love it when she calls.

    (Continued on page 75 of The Wealthy Spirit)

     

    Today’s Affirmation: “I am a great people-praiser and people praise me back!”

    Laura Arnold is a fabulous relationship therapist in Los Angeles. I met her through WRS – Worthwhile Referral Sources networking group. Recently, we were both asked to give a testimonial on behalf of WRS at their local Saturday Brunch meeting in Marina del Rey.

    I spoke about how WRS was my first networking meeting ever, and how nervous I was and how I really didn’t know how to craft a 30-second commercial, and how I learned how to be effective by helping others and referring business to them. That in turn helped people get to know me and refer business to me.

    Laura took a different tack. After praising WRS, she gave a terrific list of instructions, and I got her permission to share them with you (they will work for any networking group anywhere).

    Laura Arnold

    Laura Arnold’s Top 10 SUREFIRE ways to sabotage yourself at WRS:
    1.   Arrive late to meetings, and leave before they end. (Extra credit: Be disruptive when you do this.)
    2.   Take a long time to return phone calls, or, better yet, don’t return them at all.)
    3.   Don’t join any committees or do anything to increase your visibility in the organization.
    4.   Isolate yourself from colleagues in the same or related categories as yourself and never refer            business to them.
    5.   Attend meetings sporadically or not at all.
    6.   Never refer business to other members or use their services or products.
    7.   Ignore WRS protocol. Hard sell to everybody whenever you get a chance.
    8.   Never meet with members before, after or between meetings to build relationships.
    9.   Talk incessantly about yourself and never ask anyone about themselves or their businesses.
    10. Be focused only on yourself and what’s in it for you.

    I promise you, if you follow all, or even most, of these guidelines you are GUARANTEED little or no business at WRS.

    The audience howled with laughter. WRS has great training to teach you how to network effectively, and it’s based on Zig Zilar’s saying, “You can have everything in life you want if you just help enough other people get what they want.”

    Here’s Laura’s information if you or someone you know needs a great therapist!

    Laura Arnold, MA, LMFT
    10436 Santa Monica Blvd., Ste. 3030
    Los Angeles, CA 90025
    310 850-5666
    laura@Laura Arnoldmft.com
    www.LauraArnoldmft.com

    Ocean

    Posted on March 15th, 2012 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    74-March 15

    “It will never rain roses. When we want to have more roses, we must plant more trees.”—George Eliot

     

    When I speak of sharks, dolphins, and tuna, I want to stress that I am not advocating segregation of fish, or saying that some fish are bad fish. We are all in the ocean together, and mutually interdependent. I just want you to be as high up on the food chain as possible.

    If you’re swimming around with a lot of sharks, trying to transform them into dolphins, you are probably a tuna. Have you ever noticed how difficult it is to change yourself, even when you really want to change? It is a million times more difficult to try and change someone else. As a matter of fact, I would like to go on record as saying it is impossible to change someone else.  Tuna will only be hurt if you suggest that their problems are their own fault, and no self-respecting shark is going to respond to your advice to lose the teeth and change the music.  All you can do is model behavior, and if the fish swimming in your vicinity see how happy you are—so much so that they want to be like you—then they have a chance to change themselves. But you don’t do it. They do it. And they have to want it bad.

    If you find yourself in the water with sharks, put your shark fin on as camouflage and swim to the nearest exit. You can try and adopt some protective shark behavior, but you will never be as good a shark as a real shark—you don’t have the teeth for it. If you find yourself with tuna, model dolphin behavior for them, but don’t get trapped into commiserating “ain’t-it-awful” behavior. Love them—but don’t do business with them, or you may find that sign “Sorry, Charlie” hanging in front of you.

    We strive to become Dolphin—smart, joyful, intelligent comrades, warding off sharks and saving tuna. This is our world view.

    When you are ready, there is a greater vision: We are Ocean.

    Today’s Affirmation: “I float blissfully in the ocean of life, giving gifts to all its creatures.”

     

    One Saturday afternoon, I was playing poker in a friendly game at the Bicycle Casino. Most of the players were regulars and we knew each other, having played the same game often over the past few years.

    Linda, the tall blond across from me, was a lovely person – away from the tables, or if she was winning. But when she was losing, watch out! Her anger would start to seethe, she’d fling her cards at the dealer, and curse angrily. It was a bit uncomfortable.

    She was winning for awhile and perfectly pleasant, and then her luck changed and she got a couple of “bad beats”. She snapped at the dealer and threw her cards on the table and glared at me.

    “Oh, now Linda,” I said as soothingly as I could, “It’s just one hand. You’ll have another hand in two minutes and it will get better.”

    She stopped and stared at me for a moment. Then she said seriously, without a hint of sarcasm, “You must have been loved as a child.”

    “Why, yes,” I said cheerfully. “I was definitely lucky there!”

    Several men at the table smiled, and one said to me, “Are you one of those people who thinks the glass is always half full?”

    “Oh, I’m just happy if I have a glass!” I exclaimed, to laughter all around.

    Months later, I saw the guy who had been sitting on my left that day, and he smiled and said he never forgot that I said was happy if I had a glass. I said, “Sure, because that just means there’s lots of opportunity to find something to put in the glass.”

    “What if you didn’t have a glass?” he asked.

    “Well, then I’d be looking around at the opportunities for getting a glass!”

    Just living my truth, no matter what fish are in the sea.

    Daughter of Dolphin

    Posted on March 14th, 2012 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    73-March 14

    “None of us has gotten where we are solely by pulling ourselves up from our own bootstraps. We got here because somebody bent down and helped us.”—Thurgood Marshall

     

    It was December of 1988 and I had just lost the major client of my business management firm. I was struggling with debt, with bills I couldn’t pay, trying to get more business and keep the doors open. My friend, Sharlee Bishin, called me up and asked me if I had seen the article in the paper about the new pilot program the Small Business Administration was starting up called the “Women’s Network of Entrepreneurial Training” or WNET. They had enlisted twelve successful women business owners in California to act as mentors to other women and they were taking applications from potential mentees.

    I had seen the article and had even cut it out and put it on my desk, but hadn’t done anything about it. When I told her that, Sharlee just about leapt through the phone. She said, “This is perfect for you and with what you’re going through, you have to apply for this program. You could get matched up with somebody like Patty DeDominic, who runs a multi-million dollar employment agency here in Los Angeles and was mentioned in the article!” I had had the instinct myself that this would be a good program for me, but I just hadn’t taken action. Sharlee gave me just the push I needed to take the time to fill out the application and send it in.

    Three weeks passed, and I forgot about it until one afternoon when I got a call from an SBA representative. She told me, “We’ve got a mentor for you.” I was delighted. “Who?” I asked. And she said, “Patty DeDominic!” The synchronicity floored me—I knew this was meant to be and was going to be great.

    Patty was incredible. We hit it off immediately the first time we met. When I told her of my recent problems, she told me about the time she had a cash flow crunch early in her career and wasn’t going to be able to make the payroll for all her temporary employees. When the bank turned her down for a loan, she ended up borrowing the money from her accountant. But she weathered the storm, and here she was, one of the most successful women entrepreneurs in the country. She had overcome obstacles and she believed I could, too.

    We worked together over the next year, meeting once every three or four weeks, and talking on the phone regularly. She opened her business, her home, and her heart to me and her faith and sound advice were a lifeline I clung to during some of my darkest hours. Much of what I know about successful business practices, I learned from her. Patty Dolphin DeDominic.

    Have a mentor? Write them a thank you letter today. Don’t have one? Get one. Then be one.

    Today’s Affirmation: “I surround myself with supportive, loving friends and mentors.”

     

    Mentoring others is such a great pleasure that many people do it for a living: teachers, sports coaches, life coaches, business coaches, therapists, team leaders, self-help authors, public speakers, school counselors. There are people who devote a lot of time, energy, and money helping others through philanthropic organizations and charity work. There are also people who are unofficial helpers – they live their lives as an example that anyone can follow.

    Whether for pay or for free, there is wonderful food for the soul in helping another human being. What Dolphins know – that Sharks and Tuna don’t – is that when the person you’ve helped succeeds, when they win big, when they have a richer, fuller, happier life because of you, you benefit even more than they do. You feel even more thrilled for them than if it had happened to you. You can accomplish wonderful things and have great successes on your own, but when you help others feast at that table, you are unlimited in the successes you can experience.

    Do you see how that can magnify a person’s happiness a zillionfold? It is this quality of joy in being of service that distinguishes Dolphins.

    It doesn’t mean that being mentored is all sweetness and light and compliments. Dolphins will give you the great gift of telling you the truth. You can trust what they say and benefit from their wisdom.  Don’t ask them for feedback unless you want to hear it.  Their criticism may sting a bit, but you know they are right.  If you follow their advice, you will improve your life.

    Some people might think that Simon Cowell, the acerbic judge on the television show, American Idol, is a Shark because he gave such pointed, withering criticisms to some of the singer-contestants.  I consider him a Dolphin.  Dolphins can be tough, but they do it for your own good.  I winced over some of his criticisms when they seemed particularly harsh, but the contestants took that risk when they signed up to participate in the show.  If they are bad singers, they should know better, but if they didn’t before, they will now.  If they are good singers making mistakes, they will learn from him and improve.  Besides, Simon’s tough personality and witty remarks were part of why the show was such a success.  He knew that, and gave the audience—and his fellow investors, backers, producers, and the television station—what they wanted.  It worked for everyone on whatever level they were playing the game.

    I think some of the celebrities we see crash and burn in the media are people without good mentor-critics. They aren’t getting the advice they need to manage their lives in a happy, constructive manner. Because they are famous and rich, they have the ability to surround themselves with “yes people” whose income depends on their being complimentary and agreeable. That creates a bubble of illusion, making the celebrity think they are fine when they’re not. Where are they going to hear the truth that they need to change and grow? Who can they trust?

    Who to you trust? Who are the Dolphins in your life?  Who are your mentors and supporters?  Who can you count on for an uplifting word of encouragement, good advice, or a safe haven from the storms that batter your ships?  Who are the clients, bosses or partners that praise you and pay you? Who do you trust completely, unquestioningly, to hold your highest good in their heart and tell you the truth when it’s tough but you need to hear it in order to grow?

    These are your Dolphins.  They are Your People. Keep them close and learn from them. Then be a Dolphin Mentor yourself. That’s the Circle of Dolphin Life.

    Daughter of Jaws

    Posted on March 13th, 2012 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    72 – March 13

    “Do not try to fight a lion if you are not one yourself.”—African Proverb

     

    The money is in the phone—but not in every phone call. Let me tell you about Bridget.

    A corporate client of mine invited me to his company trade show which I attended on a crisp fall Saturday. When I arrived, he introduced me to the woman he was sitting with, and very nicely praised my skills as a motivational speaker. The woman, Bridget, said, “Oh, you should come and give a talk where I work at XYZ (a major television station)—they have speakers in all the time.” I thanked her for the suggestion and asked for her card. When I saw that her title was essentially “Big Honcho of Talent and Casting,” I felt as though I had won the lottery!

    I immediately sent Bridget a nice thank you note and my usual speaker’s package of information and testimonials. After a week, I made a follow-up phone call to her office. The secretary asked my name, then put me on hold. The next thing I heard was shouted at me: “Don’t call me! I only met you for five minutes! Don’t call me!”

    I was shocked speechless for a moment, unprepared for this reaction! I said, “Excuse me. When we met, you gave me your card and suggested I send you some information, which I did. This is the first call I have made to follow up.”

    “Don’t call me!! I can’t do anything for you. I got your stuff, I forwarded it on—there’s nothing more I can do for you. I only met you for five minutes! Don’t call me!!”

    Well, I just couldn’t think of anything brilliant to say in that moment so I said, “Okay,” and hung up. I felt awful!

    (Continued on page 72 of The Wealthy Spirit)

    Today’s Affirmation: “The money is in the phone and I get richer and richer with every call!”

     

    I still remember how shocked I was over the virulent attack of that woman. I was just so unprepared for that! I was used to calling people who were nice to me. Yowch.

    But it was just more training in how to roll with the punches, and to make my “gold calls” no matter what the response was. Not everyone will want what I have, not everyone will like me. It doesn’t matter. Making calls is what it takes for me to be successful in my business. I’ve told people in my workshops that it’s the sacrifice you make on behalf of your customer who needs your product or service and doesn’t know where you are.

    You have to be willing to fail and to have unpleasant experiences sometimes. This is how it works:

    Risks on the Road Between You and the Emerald City

    “Perseverance is a great element of success. If you only knock long enough and loud enough at the gate, you are sure to wake up somebody.”
    —Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

    If you aren’t winning enough in your life, it’s because you aren’t losing enough. “What?!” you may be thinking. “I’m losing plenty, thanks. That can’t be right.”

    It is right. You have to take risks to win. And you don’t win every time you take a risk. Success is a percentage game—and it’s not even a big percentage. The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is that successful people are willing to fail more often than unsuccessful people. They are willing to hear “no” and get rejected. Millionaire baseball players bat .300—that means they only hit three balls out of ten. But they make millions because most people can’t even hit that many.

    The difference is that winners have an intense, laser-focused attention on the goal—and on winning the goal. They don’t see the goal as out of reach, they believe that they will attain it if they just do the right things. If they don’t know exactly what the right things are, they are willing to experiment, pay for lessons, workshops, coaches, and try different things until they happen upon the things that work, and then they do those things over and over and over, ad infinitum, until the goal is achieved. They send out a ship, and then they send out another one. And another one. And another and another and another. It doesn’t matter how many ships sink, how many people say no to you; it only matters how many people say yes. So keep on going until enough people say yes. You have to have this kind of determination not to quit and to keep going until the yeses arrive like the next ship on the next wave. Or the one after that.

    So how do you remain undefeated in the face of lost ships? How do you garner the strength—mental, physical, and spiritual—to build another? And the one after that? How do you face mounting losses, over and over again?

    It take passion, determination, and single-minded devotedness to purpose. When you’re Dorothy and your goal is the Emerald City, you are willing to take any path to get there – your goal is all that matters. Determination is like an iron fist in your gut. You will not be dissuaded from your dream because there’s a wicked witch on the road, or flying monkeys overhead, or a guard at the gate who denies you entrance between you and the Emerald City. You will never be one of those small people who are content to stay forever in Munchkinland. You will get to the Emerald City or die on the road to the Emerald City. And because you keep on moving down the road, life helps you out by sending you a Glinda, a Tin Man, a Scarecrow, and a Lion to give you encouragement and help you succeed.

    wiz

    Losing fires up winners. Their response when someone tells them they aren’t good enough, they can’t do it, or they’re a loser, is “Oh, yeah? Watch this!” They use the rejection as an energetic launching pad to redouble their efforts, sharpen their creativity, and prove the naysayers wrong.

    Let me give you a tip: There’s no “there” there. There is no place to get to where you stay put “happily ever after.” Because after you reach your Emerald City, it isn’t long before you’re making plans for the Ruby City next. And the Diamond City after that. As soon as you get one goal, you just set another goal. Goals are not ends in themselves – they are just there to get you out on the road, meeting people, and experiencing life. Be passionate, follow your bliss, and the worst that can happen is you live a life full of great adventures. It’s all good.

    Today is a new day. The yellow brick road beckons you onward. Where are you headed next?

    Go for it! Do it! Yes, you can!

    The Nay Sayers

    Posted on March 11th, 2012 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    70 – March 11

    “A ship is safe in the harbor, but that is not its purpose.”—Unknown

     

    No matter who you are, how brightly you shine, how loving, smart, talented, rich, successful, kind, caring, or wonderful you are, there will be someone who doesn’t think so. Some of the most difficult challenges to overcome are the boulders that other people put in our path. They are “The Nay Sayers.”

    Years ago, on the same day, Burt Reynolds and Clint Eastwood were both released from their contracts with a major motion picture studio’s talent development program. They were told they would never make it in show business. Reynolds was told that he couldn’t act and Eastwood that his Adam’s apple was too large.

    As they walked off the studio lot, they passed some workmen who were already painting out their names on their parking spaces. I imagine that they were depressed, hurt and scared. Their dreams of stardom and success must have dimmed on that day. But Reynolds turned to Eastwood and said, “Well, I think I have a better chance than you of becoming a star anyway.”

    Eastwood looked at him suspiciously and asked, “Oh, yeah? Why is that?”

    With a twinkle in his eye and his inimical comic style, Reynolds replied, “Well, I can always learn how to act. But what are you going to do about that Adam’s apple?”

    Both talented men rose to great heights of motion picture stardom. Their faces and films are familiar to me. I know Burt Reynolds’ name. I know Clint Eastwood’s name.

    I don’t know the name of their Nay Sayer. Do you?

    Today’s Affirmation: “All my good is on its way to me now!”

     

    There are plenty of destroyers out there. Perhaps they are just angry they don’t have the talent to create positive things. Maybe they weren’t loved as a child. It’s a lot easier to criticize than to create. People don’t remember the names of the critics, the people who write nasty comments on blogs and websites, the people who trash others.

    We remember and celebrate the names of the creative people, who set sail when others thought they would fall off the end of the earth, who painted pictures in styles others thought were crazy, who invented machines that flew.

    Never mind if you haven’t had that big success yet, or if the world still doesn’t understand you. With the energy of your attempt, you lift others and spur them on to greatness. You add power to the dreams of everyone.

    Theodore Roosevelt said it best and is often quoted:

    “It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself for a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.”

    “Citizenship in a Republic,”
    Speech at the Sorbonne, Paris, April 23, 1910

    It really chokes me up every time I read it and I can’t help tearing up a little. I think of all the people I know who have struggled through this last recession, who strive to carry on, learn from their mistakes, and keep their head held high no matter what. I honor you for your perseverance, your dedication, your ideals. For your creativity and your fortitude.

    Forget the critics – especially the inner ones – they don’t have the capability to understand you.

    You are a winner right now, right where you stand. Celebrate yourself today.