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    A Love Letter to Yourself

    Posted on October 31st, 2011 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    303-October 30

    “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”—George Bernard Shaw

     

    I attended a weekend women’s retreat years ago, and seminar leader Suzy Prudden gave us the assignment to write a love letter to ourselves. We were to do this during our afternoon break. “It should begin, ‘My darling, my dearest one,’” she said, “and praise all of your best qualities.” Everyone tittered a bit; it was uncomfortable. I saw that no one had much experience with self-praise.

    I went to my room to relax, meditate, and think about all I had experienced so far at this retreat. I had some resistance to writing the love letter to myself, but finally picked up pen and paper and started. “My darling, my dearest one,” I wrote…and started to cry. I cried the entire time I wrote the letter. Finally, it was done and almost time to reconvene with the others. I washed my face with cool water and tried to repair the damage to my makeup.

    As I walked into the conference room, I noticed a lot of women’s eyes were red. We sat in a circle and Suzy said, “Now we’re going to share our letters.” Oh, dear, I thought, how embarrassing. The first woman who read her letter made it to about the middle of the second sentence before she started to cry. She was not alone, for we were all crying with her. We all cried for the entire time we shared our letters. Love swelled in the room and as we cried, we bonded. It was a tremendously moving experience. Not embarrassing at all.

    Oh, how I cry for us all, we imperfect, perfectly beautiful beings who try so hard to be what’s true, do what’s best, and measure up to the impossible standards we set for ourselves. We constantly strive to fix what’s broken, add what’s missing, fill the unfulfilled longing. There’s always room for improvement, never be satisfied, never give up. Have we tried hard enough, given enough, loved enough? How much is enough? At what level of attainment do we get to acknowledge and praise what we have accomplished instead of bemoan what yet remains to be done?

    Write your love letter to yourself and keep it close by. Take time to praise yourself, acknowledge yourself for a good job well done this day, this life. Celebrate your wins, cheer for your own accomplishments, nurture your creative soul. Be at peace, you did enough. You are enough.

    Today’s Affirmation: “I love and honor myself for all that I am and all that I do.”

    Ah, I see that I posted the October 31st message yesterday, so am posting October 30th today. One is about loving others, and this one is about loving yourself. Both good messages, and rather interchangeable, don’t you think?

    I’m needing a good dose of self-appreciation today. I’ve been down for the count with some stomach flu that really turned me inside out. Whew! I can’t stand feeling sick – I’m really a wimp about that. So now I get to once again appreciate how glorious life is when you feel well! Thank you, God, for life and health.

    Enjoy a wonderful day today, dolphins!

     

    Send Ships into Someone Else’s Harbor

    Posted on October 30th, 2011 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

     

    305-November 1

    “We are each of us angels with only one wing and we can fly only by embracing one another.”—Luciano de Crescenzo

     

    Sometimes, no matter what I do, it seems that nothing is working. Every call I make to enroll someone in the workshop is a “no,” people who I thought were enrolled for sure call to change their mind, a bill I wasn’t expecting crops up unannounced. I find myself fighting fear of financial stress—again. All systems are not go. I do not pass go; I do not collect $200.

    Breakdown. We all have these times. Who knows why? Something isn’t centered within our own thoughts and beliefs, we have a new challenge or a new lesson to learn, it’s a full moon, Mercury’s in retrograde, or it’s the economy, stupid.

    I only know what works to get me past it—help someone else. As Zig Ziglar is fond of saying, “You can have everything in life you want, if you just help enough other people get what they want.” I take this to heart on these days that trying to get my own needs fulfilled isn’t working. I pull out my list of contacts and instead of focusing on who wants to buy my services, I concentrate on a magical question: “Who can I help today?”

    On these helping days, I put aside all thoughts of myself and my business and dedicate the day to serving others. I enroll in someone else’s course. I buy makeup from my beauty consultant. I peruse all my networking contacts to see who could benefit from each other. I call anyone I can think of who could use the services of someone else I know and tell them about each other. I invite people to come to networking meetings with me. I call people to tell them I’m thinking about them, and is there anything I can help them with today. I write testimonial letters to tell people I think they’re wonderful. I make it my business to spread happiness and good cheer.

     

    What happens when I do this seems almost magical. As I help others, I help myself. When I make someone else happy, I become happy. My day brightens as I brighten someone else’s day. And then the dam breaks. Whatever was holding me back, disappears. Referrals start calling me “out of the blue.” People call who I’ve never met, referred by people I’ve never met! Money and good start flowing to me again.

    Whenever you’re not getting, give. Then watch the dam break, and the flood of good flow over you.

    Today’s Affirmation: “I give my abundance to others, and it flows back to me multiplied!”

    Believe in Magic

    Posted on October 29th, 2011 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    304-October 31

    “I can live for two months on a good compliment.”—Mark Twain

     

    Dwayne Garman is an upbeat, enthusiastic young magician. Everyone in class cheered the day he shared with us that he had accomplished a major lifetime goal: He auditioned for and was accepted as a member of Los Angeles’ famed magician’s club, the Magic Castle.

    After accepting his accolades from the group, he shared with us how testimonials had helped him keep working when many other magicians were struggling. Several years before, he was working under contract with a local restaurant to provide close-up magic for their diners. He would move from table to table, performing various sleight-of-hand and card tricks to the amusement and delight of the restaurant’s patrons.

    The engagement was going well, but it was difficult for the restaurant owner to track the effectiveness of the entertainment on the bottom line. Was it really a draw to keep customers coming back? Did the act have a measurable impact on the dining experience? Dwayne could see that the restaurant managers were unsure.

    So Dwayne created some “Feedback” cards to leave with the diners after he finished each performance, and asked them to fill them out. He would collect the cards from the tables later.

    That’s not what was so original about his idea—many people ask for feedback input on cards or forms. It’s what he did next that made all the difference.

    Dwayne made photocopies of the quotes from all the testimonial cards, by lining them up on the copier so that just quote after quote showed through. He then presented this list to restaurant management along with his bill at the end of each week.

    Not only did he get paid promptly and happily, he worked for this restaurant chain until the parent company canceled the national program.

    Send your testimonials along with your invoices—great idea! If you’re on salary, you can still send updates on accomplishments and testimonials to your managers, along with “thank you” for your paychecks. Where else can testimonials work in your life?

    Today’s Affirmation: “I am wonderful—and I have proof!”

    Pet the Cat

    Posted on October 28th, 2011 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    301-October 28

    “Life is a romantic business, but you have to make the romance.”—Oliver Wendell Homes

    I was rushing off to work one morning, when I reached down briefly to pat my cat on the head and say goodbye for the day. I caught myself suddenly as I stood up and thought, “Why am I rushing so that I can’t take two minutes to really see, feel, and connect with my kitty that I love?” I put my briefcase, purse and keys back down on the table, picked up Yoda and just hugged and petted her for a while. At the office later, I tried to remember this experience and take the time to really see and hear and know and relate to the people behind the tasks at work.

    I believe it must be possible for every thought and act to be performed in that state of grace called love. We occasionally see some people operating from this state and often they become famous as religious leaders. But I also see, as I really look around at the people I know and meet, many different levels of expertise at the practice of this concept. Look at the possibility if each individual had “spread love and peace” as his goal each day.

    I can see the people who operate from love: They shine. Someone told me once that the definition of a friend was someone whose face lights up when they see you. You know what happens next—your face lights up, too! It looks to me that some people are lighting up a lot of other people. Wouldn’t it be great to be among them, and light up faces everywhere you go?

    In the business world, too, this is possible. Take time to understand the human being behind the transaction, the spiritual being behind the contract. The goal of business doesn’t have to be just more profit. The possibilities are bigger than that. Business can spread light, love, and peace in the world.

    Today’s Affirmation: “Today I spread light, love, and peace in the world to all God’s creatures.”

    Lately, I’ve been pondering about the world economy, the burst of the real estate bubble, and all the fallout. So the last paragraph of this page of The Wealthy Spirit resonates with me today – “The goal of business doesn’t have to be just more profit.”

    When companies focus on profit like that’s the only purppose of a business, it’s not good for humanity as a whole. The sharks swarm into that space – they want all the money for themselves, and they think the game is to win as much as you can. They want to be Number One and that means having the biggest score – the most money in the bank, the biggest net worth, the largest office building, the most financial perks, etc. When they focus on that alone, all their power and money is used to get more power and money.

     

    That’s the big ego trap. It leads people and companies into unethical behavior – insider trading, illegal monopolies, profiting from child labor in third-world countries. When the goal is only to have more shekles to count or a higher stock value, the common good of humanity gets lost. How do you put “our employees are fulfilled and happy” on a balance sheet? How do you put “gave all our employees top health insurance” in the asset column when the expense is so high?

    A recent article I read said that Walt Disney made 108 times the salary of his lowest employee. The current CEO of Disney makes over 700 times the amount of his lowest employee.

    A new government study reported that the top 1% of households saw their after-tax incomes grow by 275% from 1979 to 2007. The 60% of households that comprise the middle class increased by nearly 40%, and the 20% with the lowest incomes increased 18%. The repored cited that “As a result of that uneven income growth, the distribution of after-tax household income in the United States was substantially more unequal in 2007 than in 1979.”

    Rep. Sander M. Levin (D-Mich.) said the report was “just the latest evidence of the alarming rise in income inequality in this country.”

    This is what happens when the game of business is becomes solely about the money, and the spiritual values that make life worth living are left off the balance sheet. We”ve lost our balance, and a shift is coming. That’s the underlying sensibility that has people out in the streets today with Occupy Wall Street.

    Nurturing Yourself

    Posted on October 27th, 2011 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    300-October 27

    “It isn’t the great big pleasures that count the most; it’s making a great deal out of the little ones.”—Jean Webster

     

    The class on accomplishing goals was intense. Each week for eight weeks, the participants met and outlined their strategies for achieving them. Most of the people in the class were high achievers, energetic personalities. They were used to winning and not afraid of the hard work it took to get them where they wanted to go.

    At the first class session, Korey listened quietly as each person energetically listed their dreams and desires, and what they were willing to do to achieve them. She, too, was a successful businessperson, an entrepreneur who had started her own tutoring business and built it into a thriving business with ten employees. She knew how to focus, visualize, and commit time and energy to the process of achievement.

    But Korey was in crisis. In her determination to succeed, she had forgotten how to play. The goal-getting mode had become her constant setting, drive and determination her normal way of life. She was out of balance. She was unhappy. Knowing she needed to do something to change her life before she became another high-flyer who burned out, Korey enrolled in the goals class to accomplish this end.

    One by one, each of the class participants outlined their goals. “My goal is to double my income,” said one. “I want to expand my business internationally,” said another. All of them had major, challenging, big business and big money goals. Each goal was met with applause and approval. As the last of the group, all eyes turned to Korey. “My goal is to nurture myself,” she said. “I will bring in a list each week of all the things I did during the week to take care of myself, to pamper myself, to have fun, and to relax.”

    Pandemonium. Frowns. Quizzical looks. Anger and sarcasm. Everyone in the room protested her choice. “That’s not an appropriate goal for this class!” they argued. “This class is about achieving success!” “What good is success if you’re too tired to enjoy it?” she retorted. The instructor quieted everyone and allowed that Korey’s goal was a legitimate one and she could proceed with the class.

    Every week, the class participants shared their successes: “I just got my SBA loan for $100,000,” “I made forty-five sales calls and closed three major deals,” “I was just elected president of my national association.” Korey brought in her nurturing list: “I walked on the beach in the middle of the afternoon: I painted pictures and listened to music; I took a bubble bath and lit the room with candles; I had a “Pajama Day” and read and watched movies in bed, I made a list of my best qualities and acknowledged myself for them.” The other participants listened enviously.

    By the end of the course, everyone was asking for copies of her list.

    Why not start your own list today?

    Today’s Affirmation: “I relax, let go, and lovingly nurture myself.”

    This is one of my favorite stories. I remember Korey telling me about this experience, and how fascinated she was at the reactions of the other people in her class. They were really upset and angry with her at first – perhaps they were afraid that her goals for nurturing herself would poison the hard-driving success-oriented-at-all-costs atmosphere with do-nothing-fritter-the-day-away couch potato-itis?

    But she wasn’t advocating that – she was advocating balance, peace, appreciation, nuturing, relaxing. She wanted time out to be a human being instead of a human doing. You can’t be hard-charging 24/7. Balance is key.

    So what are your favorite ways to nurture yourself?

     

    There’s Always Enough Time to Do What You Really Want

    Posted on October 26th, 2011 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    299-October 26

    “The trouble with many of us is that we just slide along in life. If we would only give, just once, the same amount of reflection to what we want out of life that we give to the question of what to do with a two-week vacation, we would be startled at our false standards and the aimless procession of our busy days.”—Dorothy Canfield Fisher

     

    People fit amazing amounts of activity into their schedules. When you really are committed to your vision or your dream, somehow you find the time. It is almost like time literally expands and you accomplish incredible feats in nano-seconds instead of in hours. Days elongate as your focus and concentration put you in “The Zone,” that space where everything flows naturally, easily, effortlessly. After spending time in “The Zone,” you sometimes return to consciousness, amazed at what you’ve produced, half the time not even recognizing it as your own.

    Mystery writer Sharyn McCrumb told of her experience with this in Writer’s Digest. She said that in 1986, she sold a four-page book proposal, but with a catch: The editor needed the completed novel in six weeks. Gulp. She was working full-time, teaching a night class, and taking two graduate classes that both required research papers. She was also the mother of an eight-year-old daughter, with another child on the way. She had lots of “yeah, buts” to choose from.

    Instead, she wrote the book in six weeks. Not only did she do it, but she did it so well that it won the Edgar Allan Poe Award for Best Paperback Novel in 1987!

    This is a great example of a life “sprint.” Sprints are wonderful, and you can do anything when a fantastic goal makes the sprint worthwhile. Just a small caution: Don’t make sprinting a full-time habit. And make sure to take a time-out when you’ve finished one.

    Today’s Affirmation: “I have abundant time to manifest my abundant riches!”

     

    Cabin outside Key Falls Inn in North Carolina

    Okay, I’m going to take off a bunch of time today. I’ve been sprinting – I did two free teleclasses followed by a series of emails, made 126 calls, talked to 58 people, enrolled 18 people in my classes with 14 interested in the February 2012 classes. It’s always “crunch time” right before my 8-week telecourses begin! Then my sisters and I traveled to North Carolina for a wonderful family reunion. Caught up on the backlog of emails and phone calls and social networking etc. and woke up this morning with a cold. Sigh. That’s the body’s message to you to cut it out and take a rest!

    Okay, so message received. Chellie out.

     

    Navigating Stars

    Posted on October 25th, 2011 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    298-October 25

    “Never let your head hang down. Never give up and sit down and grieve. Find another way. And don’t pray when it rains if you don’t pray when the sun shines.”—Satchel Paige

    Zane, the movie director, was stuck. He had made a wonderfully funny short film and was having difficulty getting it seen. We met for a couple of hours to discuss his situation and figure out what new ships he needed to send out. At the end of the meeting, I told him that sometime you just have to ask God to give you a sign. He liked that idea and promised to try it.

    A short time later, I received a note from him. He told me that he had been doing some serious talking with God for several days. Apparently, it was a fairly one-sided conversation and he wasn’t getting an answer back. So he asked for a sign: That either one of his scripts would get sold or it would become abundantly clear that he should change the direction of his life.

    Still, there was no sign. In exasperation, he told his wife, Julia, that since God wasn’t cooperating, Zane was going to make a sign himself and hang it in his office. It was going to say: “Dear Zane, You are a successful writer, director and producer of feature films and television. Love, Your friend and confidante, God.”

    Before Zane had a chance to actually make the sign, his publicist called. She had spoken with an agent at Creative Artists Agency who was sending a messenger to pick up a tape of Zane’s film. The agent said that he would get back to her in a week and that he would try to help out in any way he could. Zane was ecstatic.

    He ended his note to me with this comment: “Admittedly, nothing has happened yet but it looks really bright. Seeing you last Saturday really helped me get my head on straight and chart my ship on a proper course. I look to the stars for aid in navigating my ship. And you are one of the brightest in the firmament. Thank you so much. Love, Zane.”

     

    Isn’t that a lovely note? What every teacher/consultant/leader hopes for is having a student who actually follows your suggestion and then has success because of it. Getting notes like this is the icing on the cake: What we’re all working for, hungry for, panting for. Be a bright star in someone’s firmament. Be there. Help out. And remind everyone to ask God to play on the team.

    Today’s Affirmation: “I have many bright stars that help me navigate my ship!”

    What a gift it is to be able to be of service and truly help someone. I mean it’s a gift to the one who is privileged to be of service. Some of the most treasured moments of my life are when someone I’m talking with has an “aha!” experience – does it feel that way to you, too? Remember that being able to be helped is also a priceless gift you are giving to someone to allow them to help you.

    I recently received a letter from someone who had taken my class years ago and still reads “The Wealthy Spirit”. She spoke of challenges she had, how she lost everything, and how she worked through it and regained all that she had lost and more, saying that I had helped her. She finished with, “I am your forever.”

    I cried and read it four times over. This is a letter that I will bring out on a Blue Day when everything seems to be going wrong, the Bag Lady in my head is scolding me, when the person I called hangs up on me, when the people I try to help reject me. And I will remember that I am here to offer help, but it is someone else’s gift to give to be willing to receive it.

    Treasure the people who allow you to give. You will find your highest glory with them.

     

     

    Dig the Reservoir

    Posted on October 24th, 2011 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    297-October 24

    “After winter comes the summer. After night comes the dawn. And after every storm, there comes clear, open skies.”—Samuel Rutherford

     

    When I think of all the time and energy I have spent trying to convince people to take my workshop when they really weren’t that interested, I could cry. I finagle, I plead, I use all my fancy “closing techniques,” trying to convince them to do what I want them to do instead of letting them off the hook I want to reel them in on. I’m sure at these times that Chellie “has a lean and hungry look.” I am just as sure that it is not attractive.

    Desperation appears when we fear not having enough. Enough participants in the workshop, enough money in the bank, enough salary, raises, promotion, accolades, jewelry, cars, clothes, children, space, time. We grab, we horde, we corral, we fight, we scream. Fear-based decisions rule our minds, hearts, actions. The more we grasp at abundance, the more it eludes us. Frantically, we try to push the river…

    Continued on page 297 of The Wealthy Spirit

    Today’s Affirmation: “It’s summertime, and my livin’ is easy!”

    Ah, I’m just back from a wonderful family reunion in Brevard, North Carolina. We had most of my generation’s cousins - the children of the children of Mama & Papa Livy. Mama and Papa had 8 children (who survived infancy; 2 did not): Woodie, Lou, Rob, Lloyd, Egbert, Charles, D.A., and the youngest, my mother, Chellie Le Nell. Fifteen first cousins, most of them married and had children and some of their children now have children – no, I’m not going to name all of them, I might get myself in trouble forgetting someone!

    White squirrel at Brevard, NC

    We had a wonderful time hugging and laughing and catching up on everything that’s been going on since our last reunion in 2008, which was the first reunion since the 60s. Organized by our intrepid Gail Livingston Hare, we stayed in the most beautiful bed and breakfast, the Key Falls Inn, built in the 1860s. We had a fabulous breakfast with everyone each morning, and hiked the Pisgah Mountains trails in the afternoon. We went to the Pumpkin Patch with the wee ones, just joining our family circle and our world. We shopped in beautiful downtown Brevard, and saw the rare white squirrels at Brevard College that only live in a few hidden places in North Carolina. Oh, and we ate – how we ate! Barbequed pork and beans, cole slaw, summer squash & goat cheese salad, big breakfast spreads of eggs, sausage, cereal, biscuits, scones, and lots of coffee and sweet southern tea. Woodie’s chocolate chip cookies, chocolate cake…oh, my!

    And we told stories, nodded, shared, hugged, and laughed. Sparkling eyes and deep smiles spoke deep caverns of love and cherished memories. We spoke reverently of those who have gone from this Earth but whose lives hold meaning for us still, and whose spirits surrounded us, extended our love from this world into the next.

    Take time to love. Work will wait. Enjoy each precious person in your life today.

     

    Cousins Reunion barbeque in Brevard, NC

     

    Suit up, Show up, and Shut up

    Posted on October 23rd, 2011 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    296-October 23

    “Sometimes you have to make the right choices and let your feelings catch up with them.”—Dr. Phil McGraw

     

    We pay too much attention to our feelings. We want to feel like making that cold call before we make it. We want to feel love for our fellow man before we donate to charity. We want to feel joy in our work before we work. When we don’t feel these things, we don’t make the call, love humanity or do the work. But we’ve got it backwards. The feelings we want come after we take the action, not before.

    We need to take the action that we know is the right action, regardless of how we feel about it. We can be terrified, angry, humiliated, sad, tired, or depressed, fighting our mental battles against doing what we know to be right, but the end result is that it doesn’t matter how we feel about it, what matters is that we do the right thing.

    In Alcoholics Anonymous, they have a wonderful saying about this: “Suit up and show up.” This is the instruction given to newcomers who are struggling with the new practice of being sober. Alcoholics often struggle with emotions that feel overwhelming when they no longer have the alcohol to escape into. If you asked them to “feel like going to an AA meeting” before they went to one, the room would probably be empty. So the instruction is “Suit up and show up”—just get dressed and go. How you feel about it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you do it.

    When I made the decision that I was powerless over alcohol and became willing to turn my life around, they told me to go to ninety meetings in ninety days. I laughed. “Do you know what my schedule is like?” I asked incredulously. “I run my own business and I’m president of a trade organization. Impossible! Surely my case is different.” They smiled at me beatifically. “This is what you have to do to remain sober,” they told me. “How do you know?” I protested. “We’re sober and you’re not,” they replied. “If you want what we have, you have to do what we do.”

    I wanted what they had. I wanted it bad. I went to their damn ninety meetings in ninety days. I didn’t feel like it. But I got sober. I liked that. And I liked how I felt about it after I did it.

    To “Suit up and show up” I have added “and shut up.” When I was going to the midnight meeting on Sunset Boulevard, I whined about it. When I had to get up early and make the 7:00 A.M. meeting in Pacific Palisades, I whined about that, too. No one was interested.

    Shine the cold, clear light of objective reason on the passage of your life. What’s not in it that you want? Go get it. Forget how you feel now. The good feelings come after you do it. That is the secret of becoming happy, joyous, and free. And rich.

    Today’s Affirmation: “I am happy, joyous, and rich!”

    Fear

    Posted on October 22nd, 2011 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    295-October 22

    “Whether you know it or not, fear has developed your likes and dislikes, picked your friends and raised your children.”—Rhonda Britten

     

    Fear is what stops us from living our passion, from developing our dreams, from rising to the heights of success we envision. We are afraid we won’t be safe; we don’t feel secure; we’re in uncharted territory. Thoughts of the worst that can happen flood our minds and we’re afraid to take the chances.

    In the Hypmovation seminar I attended, we were told that it is normal and natural to have fears, but that we should “Face it; Examine it; Accept it, Reverse it.” It is a helpful anagram to remember, as is this one: “False Evidence Appearing Real.” But mentioned this in my class, everyone burst out laughing when one woman blurted, “Oh! I thought it stood for “F@%# Everything And Run!”

    That’s a funny comment, but we all know that running from your fear won’t take you in the direction you want to go. My friend, Rhonda Britten, a deeply courageous author and speaker, has helped many break the bonds of fear. In her book, Fearless Living: Live Without Excuses and Love Without Regret, she shows how all of us are controlled in some ways by our “wheel of fear” which keeps us from our “wheel of freedom.” When we understand the fears that limit our behavior, we can free ourselves of the limiting past and create new lives full of adventure, promise and happiness.

    Whatever your fear, you have to face it and move through it. Don’t let it stop you. We risk failure, but failure is often just a step forward to success. We almost always fail at first. Your first time at bat—did you hit the ball? Chances are you didn’t. (When I first started playing tennis, I needed three courts to play in because I couldn’t hit the ball where I wanted it to go.) You accept that you will improve with time and practice. Hopefully, it doesn’t keep you from ever picking up the ball in the first place. Have you ever watched a small child trying to learn to eat? They’re terrible at it. Food goes everywhere. But they keep on trying. You don’t see them give up and say, “Well, I hope mom sticks around to feed me because I suck at it.” So why expect perfection from yourself on the first try in the areas of business and money? Falling down and bumping your head a little is part of the deal.

    Change the way you look at the feeling of fear. Instead of a nervous energy of anxiety, hold it as the energy of excitement. Great actors always say that they get butterflies in their stomach before every performance. If they don’t get butterflies, they know they aren’t going to be good. They need the energy of the excitement to transform their performance and make them soar. You need it, too. That’s what it’s there for. It’s not nerves—it’s energy.

    Harness those butterflies. Use that energy. Gulp and go!

    Today’s Affirmation: “My energy and excitement help me reach my highest goals!”