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    Having Fun on Low Budget

    Posted on February 28th, 2015 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    59 – February 28

    “There were times my pants were so thin I could sit on a dime and tell if it were heads or tails.”—Spencer Tracy

     

    If this is a month you have chosen to be on “Low Budget,” remember that it is just for now, not forever. Make it a game! Your goal each day is to spend as little as possible. How can you have a great time without spending money? You can get the whole family involved—have a prize for the best idea. Here are some suggestions to get you started:

    1. Go shopping in your closet. Create new outfits from all the assorted shirts, skirts, pants, scarves, shoes, belts, and jewelry. Discard anything you haven’t worn in a while and donate it to charity. You’ll be doing good for others and at the same time creating space for more abundance when you get to “High Budget.”
    2. Write a poem, a play, a story, or a song. Draw a picture. Play the musical instrument you haven’t picked up in a while.
    3. Organize a family or neighborhood talent show and encourage everyone to contribute their talent. Create “First Place” Awards for everyone: Each person will be the best in their own unique category (for example, “Best Song by a Blond Girl Scout”).

    (Continued on page 59 of The Wealthy Spirit)

    Today’s Affirmation: “My life is rich in fun and adventure!

     

    Always remember that being on Low Budget is just for one month.

    Even if you have a long range plan to save for a down-payment on a house, or dig yourself out of debt, it will be too depressing if you think about living on the cheap for too long. If you can be cheerful during your Low Budget days, and know that they aren’t going to last forever, and gee, something great could happen today or tomorrow or next week and you could move up to Medium Budget! – then you’re going to do your positive affirmations with more energy and excitement, aren’t you? And that will have big payoffs in your daily joy and prosperity.

    Whatever budget you’re on, always make sure you are living below your means. Committing to too many ongoing monthly expenses without leaving room for savings, emergencies, or opportunities isn’t going to make you a happy camper when the Homeless-Harry-or-Harriet-You-Might-Become wakes you from a sound slumber when the economy tanks, your child needs an operation, or the family breadwinner loses their job. This past recession has taught that lesson, but has everyone harkened to it? Or will the spending splurge start again immediately?

    Now is the time to plan a better future. While you do that, figure out some low-cost pleasures that are really fun!

    What do you do for fun when you’re on Low Budget?

    Campbell Cash

    Posted on February 27th, 2015 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    58 – February 27

    “Just as a sunbeam can’t separate itself from the sun and a wave can’t separate itself from the ocean, we can’t separate ourselves from one another. We are all part of a vast sea of love; one indivisible divine mind.”—Marianne Williamson

     

    I invented “Campbell Cash” for my workshops, in order to play a game like the one the cruise line’s “Ship Shape” dollars. I had pretty green coffee mugs made to use as a prize, with dollar signs, hearts, and prosperity affirmations on them.

    I was excited about putting this game into practice at my next workshop. At the first session of the eight-week class, I explained that participants could buy them only with “Campbell Cash” dollars on the last day of the class. They would receive a “Campbell Cash” dollar each time they came to class and each time they did their homework. I would also give out additional dollars from time to time when people had special “wins” or accomplishments in managing or making more money. They needed fifteen of them in order to buy the mug.

    Just as on the cruise ship, people jumped into the game of getting as many “Campbell Cash” dollars as they could. They looked for “wins” in their week that they could share in class, they came to class, and they did their homework. People learned to ask for money—they got very creative and kept asking me, “Do I get a dollar for that?” It built an energy and excitement that carried over throughout the workshop.

    A few people still had some difficulties with the homework, or with asking for a special dollar. What was I going to do if some people didn’t get their fifteen dollars needed to buy the mug on the last day of class? God forbid anyone should leave class without a mug. I was still unsure of the best thing to do when the day of the last class arrived. Looking around the room, I asked everyone to count their dollars. As they added up their total, I saw some people looking proud and happy, and others looking a little sad.

    I asked Linda in the front row how many dollars she had. “Seventeen,” she said proudly. “Congratulations!” I said, “You get a mug!” I turned to Lana sitting next to her and asked how many she had. “Only fourteen,” she said sadly. Without the briefest hesitation, Linda turned to her and gave her a dollar. A ripple of love and wonder thrilled through the room as everyone sighed with happiness and understanding. They knew what to do. The next person had sixteen dollars, got her congratulations, then promptly handed her extra dollar to the man following her who only had fourteen. It continued this way until everyone in the room had enough to win their mug. There was a loving smile on every face, and a tear in every eye. Especially mine. And it has happened like that in every class since.

    Is there someone in your life who needs your dollar in order to get their prize?

    Today’s Affirmation: “I have great abundance in my life and plenty to share with others.”

     

    What was clear in my class was that each person got one mug for sixteen dollars. If they accumulated more dollars, they still just got one mug. Nobody really had a burning desire for two, three, six, or twelve mugs. The competition spurred them on during the class because it was fun to win, and fun to be acknowledged for their success. If they had dollars left over after redeeming their mug, those extra dollars were now worthless to them. But they were still valuable to the people who didn’t have enough to get a mug.

    No one ever suggested that they would sell their extra dollars, or barter something else in exchange for them. Everyone in the group had bonded over the eight weeks of the class, and everyone wanted everyone else in the group to be successful. People were genuinely delighted that they were able to help someone else get their mug. And it didn’t cost them anything.

    One of the problems in today’s world is that people feel they have to bank endless numbers of dollars because they might need them someday. It doesn’t matter that they have all they need right now, and they’ve got their mug. They’re fearful of the day they might not have it.

    What if they break it or lose it? What if it’s stolen? What if they get old or sick or lose their job and can’t get another one? So they put away money to ensure their future security. But how much is enough? One million dollars? Two million? Six billion? How much money stays out of circulation as a hedge against imagined future disasters? How many people go without their mug while others stockpile mug upon mug upon mug?

    I’d like to live in a society that guarantees every neighbor has at least one mug. Then after that, if especially talented and you want to accumulate more, if you like competitive games, you can go for it. Collect ten or twenty mugs. A garage full of mugs. Knock yourself out.

    It’s fine with me that some people have more than one. It’s just not fine that some have none.

    “Ship Shape” Dollars

    Posted on February 26th, 2015 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    57 – February 26

    “Money won’t make you happy…but everybody wants to find out for themselves.”—Zig Ziglar

     

    My friend, Korey, and I went on a cruise. We worried about gaining weight, since there was so much scrumptious, abundant food supply on board that we couldn’t believe it. There were about twelve meals per day: Pre-breakfast snack, breakfast, after breakfast snack, mid-morning snack, pre-lunch snack, lunch, after lunch snack, afternoon tea, cocktail hors d’oeuvres, dinner, mid-evening snack…by the time the midnight buffet arrived, I couldn’t get so much as another cracker in my mouth! We decided that we would counter all the food by exercising: Always using the stairs instead of the elevator, making sure to do a lot of walking, dancing in the disco, and going to aerobics class every morning.

    We showed up for aerobics class the first morning bright and early. There was a good crowd at the class and the instructor, Debbie, was energetic and upbeat, so a good time was had by all. Debbie was dressed in a cute yellow Royal Caribbean T-shirt and matching visor. At the end of the hour, she gave each one of us a yellow “Ship Shape” dollar and told us that we would get one at the end of each exercise program on the ship. If we collected ten “Ship Shape” dollars, we could redeem them for a yellow T-shirt and visor just like hers. Everyone’s eyes lit up. A free prize?

    Cruise ship at Santorini

    (Continued on page 57 of The Wealthy Spirit)

    Today’s Affirmation: “I accept rich rewards—and I deserve them!”

    My friend, BJ Gallagher, writes the most delicious books, like Dancing in the Rain, and It’s Never to Late to be What You Might Have Been. She often quotes me, which of course thrills me no end. So it’s time for me to return the favor. Here’s some great information on happiness from her latest book, The Road to Happiness.

    Happiness is Contagious

    Not too long ago, researchers from the Harvard Medical School and the University of California at San Diego made an important discovery—happiness is contagious. Your happiness is influenced not only by the people you know, but also by the people they know. In other words, happiness spreads through social relationships—groups, cliques, teams, clubs, clans, communities, gangs, neighborhoods and families.

    Sadness is contagious, too, but it seems to spread much less efficiently, according to one of the coauthors of the study, Dr. James Fowler, of U.C. San Diego.

    Fowler explains how your happiness is affected by people you don’t even know: “We have known for a long time that there is a direct relationship between one person’s happiness and anothers. But this study shows that indirect relationships also affect happiness. We found a statistical relationship not just between your happiness and your friends’ happiness, but between your happiness and your friends’ friends’ friends’ happiness.”

    Fowler and his colleague, Nicholas Christakis of Harvard, discovered that there are three degrees of separation when it comes to happiness:

    15% – If your friend, family member, or other direct social contact is happy, your probability of happiness increases by 15%.

    10% – If the spouse of your friend, or the boss of your spouse, or some other second-degree social contact is happy, your probability of happiness increases by 10%.

    6%  –  And if the friend of a friend of your best friend, or some other third-degree social contact is happy, your probability of happiness increases by 6%.

    Having more friends will also increase your chance of happiness, but not as much as having happy friends. With regard to happiness, quality seems to be more important than quantity.

    Want more happiness in your life? Hang around happy people.

    –Excerpt from The Road to Happiness: Simple Secrets to a Happy Life

    By Mac Anderson and BJ Gallagher

    http://simpletruths.com

    Julie and the One Hundred Calls

    Posted on February 24th, 2015 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    55 – February 24

    “God gives every bird its food, but He does not throw it into the nest.”—Josiah Gilbert Holland

     

    Julie, a sensational public speaker, hated making her sales calls. She loved speaking and was really good at it. She had valuable lessons to share and wonderful experiences to recount; people loved listening to her and learning from her. But “sending out ships” was hard: Pick up the phone, call strangers who may or may not want to talk to her, get rejected, rebuffed, put off, disconnected…oh, this was not fun at all.

    She knew this was a necessity in her business, however. And it’s a necessity in every business! Until you become known, with so many repeat and referral clients, you have to be out there talking to people. The more you talk to people, the more you become known. You can’t wait for people to discover you and call you—it could be a long wait, and how will you eat and pay your bills in the meantime? Not making phone calls is like standing in the shadows at a party—you know you’re there, but no one else does. You have to pick up the golden phone and smile and dial.

    She made one hundred phone calls over the next two days. And the hundredth call resulted in a speaking engagement for four thousand dollars! That’s her motivation for the next one hundred calls.

    Am I hearing “Yeah, buts” from you now? Are you wondering how this story applies to you if you aren’t in your own business or in sales? Well, how about making one hundred calls to help your boss or your company improve their profitability and see what happens? Or one hundred calls to get a better job? Or one hundred calls to raise funds for your favorite charity?

    What could happen for you in one hundred calls?

    Today’s Affirmation: “I receive tremendous rewards every time I dial the phone!”

     

    If there’s a problem in a business, the problem is usually in the shipping.

    Not postal service shipping, but “Sending Out Ships” – sales calls, marketing, advertising, etc. People need you! You’ve got to put your hand up, put a sign out, and let people know who you are, what you do, and where you are.

    Here are some samples of ships you can send out:

    Ads online

    Ads in newspapers & magazines

    Ads on television

    Listings in membership directories

    Networking (you’re the ad)

    Give speeches

    Facebook (and don’t just send pitches, be a real friend and contribute to conversations)

    LinkedIn

    Twitter

    Newsletters

    Blogs

    White papers

    Press releases

    Joint ventures

    Affiliates

    Conferences

    Web site

    Membership site

    Squeeze page or sales page

    Shopping cart

    Books and ebooks (The Wealthy Spirit was the best brochure for my workshop I ever did)

    Book signings

    Free teleclasses

    Free consultations

    Free samples

    Advertising specialties (pens, t-shirts, coffee mugs, etc.)

    Videos on Youtube

    Flyers

    Postcards

    WOM (word of mouth)

    What else do you do? What works best for you in your business? How do you know what’s working? Are you keeping track of what pays off best?

    Ships Logs

    Posted on February 23rd, 2015 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    54 – February 23

    “In any business, there are jobs that are productive and sometimes confrontational, for they test you. And then there is all the other work, none of which earns any money.”—Stuart Wilde

     

    Wilde is talking about sales. Where there are no sales, there is no money. If you are in business for yourself, it won’t matter how good you are if you don’t have any customers. Getting and retaining customers must be high on your list of daily activities. Otherwise, you aren’t going to be in business for long.

    In my seminar business, if I don’t “send out ships” to get people to attend the workshops, there won’t be anyone in them, and I won’t make any money. End of business. But since this was the most “confrontational” aspect of my work, I found I’d do just about anything else during the day. That’s what paperwork is for—it’s an excuse not to market your business. I’d reach the end of the day and feel like I’d worked hard, but stayed unconscious as to how many sales calls I’d made.

    Then one day, I was complaining to a friend about working too hard and not making enough money. He asked how many sales calls I made each day. I looked at him blankly. “I don’t know, exactly,” I said. He only had to raise his eyebrows and I got the picture.

    (Continued on page 54 of The Wealthy Spirit)

    Today’s Affirmation: “All my beautiful ships are bringing me fabulous money!”

    This is the Ships Log I use. At the beginning of the day I’m going to make calls, I write down how many times I intend to dial the phone, how many conversations I expect to have (instead of leaving messages), how many appointments to meet or talk with someone I will set, how many networking meetings or appointments I have today, and then how many clients I expect to get in the “Target” section of the form. As I make calls throughout the day, I make hatch marks in the “Actual” column.

    If you keep track faithfully, you will know exactly how many phone calls it takes to get a client. Then you multiply your actions to achieve the results you want!

    Work Hours

    Posted on February 21st, 2015 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    52 – February 21

    “I believe that people who work twelve hours a day should go home with bigger loaves of bread than people who work eight.”—Michael Levine

     

    No, no, I disagree! I enjoyed a lot of Michael Levine’s Lessons at the Halfway Point, but this one I take exception to. Success cannot be a matter of how many hours of the day you work. At some point—namely twenty-four—we run out of hours. What then?

    Late one evening in the fall of 1985, I was hard at work with running the business management firm I co-owned with two attorneys. We shared office space, and Merv, one of the partners, was working late that night, too. He came by my desk to say good night and I looked up at him in frustration. “There’s so much to do!” I exclaimed. “I could work every hour in the day and never get it all done!”

    Antique clocks at Corfu, Greece

    “That’s right, Chellie,” he said, “Work will expand to fill the time you’re willing to devote to it. At some point, you just have to say, ‘That’s enough’ and go home.”

    I thought about that many times in the next few years as I tried to find how many work hours were “enough” for me. When I was president of the National Association of Women Business Owners Los Angeles Chapter, the first motion I put on the table at the first Board of Directors meeting was this: “I move that there will now be thirty-six hours in every day.” It was seconded in a heartbeat, and passed unanimously, amid riotous laughter.

    Would that we could solve our time-management problems so easily! But even if we could make thirty-six-hour days a reality, we would have the same problems managing our time as we do today. We spin like tops trying to do too much. There is so much to do in the world! We want to do all of it and we want to do it today. I see people on the overwork treadmill every day, and it isn’t pretty. People have the equation wrong—they think more work will equal more money. They look at some successful people who are working twelve-fourteen hour days and mistakenly draw the conclusion if they want to be successful, they will have to work twelve-fourteen hours per day, too. But what they fail to notice is that the successful person isn’t working that many hours because they have to. They’re doing it because they want to—this is their fun! Don’t put more hours in your work—put more fun in your work hours. It’s the passion and drive that’s fun, and that’s what creates success.

    Even if you enjoy work and work a lot, at some point you’re going to run out of hours. Everyone has only twenty-four hours in a day, but we are all making different amounts of money. Bill Gates, Donald Trump and Stephen Spielberg aren’t making more money because they’re spending more time at work than you. They’re making more money because they’re leveraging their time differently. What can you do today to work lighter instead of longer?

    Today’s Affirmation: “The more time off I take, the more money I make.”

     

    When The Wealthy Spirit was released, I started receiving emails from people around the world who were enjoying the book. What a wonderful blessing of the internet, to receive confirmation that yes, some people were not only buying my book, but getting value from it.

    Since I didn’t know how long the book would be in print and available, or how many people might feel drawn to actually write me, I started saving all the emails in a word file.

    Imagine how fun it was when I received this one:

    Dear Chellie:

    Greetings from Planet E-mail.

    A great friend showed me your Wealthy Spirit book and pointed out that you had quoted me in your fine work. # 52.

    My name is Michael Levine and I am the author of Lessons at the Halfway Point among other books.

    Your Wealthy Spirit is a fine piece of work and you should be very proud.

    Respectfully, I think you missed my point on my works but would love to share the meaning with you on a phone chat.  My website is lcoonline.com.

    Again, thanks for including me.

    Warmly,

    ML

    He gave me his phone number, too, so I called him up. He owns a very successful public relations firm and handles a lot of big-time Hollywood clients. This is from his web site: “Throughout its 26 year history, LCO has represented Hollywood’s biggest and most powerful names and brands including Dave Chappelle, Michael Jackson, Bill Clinton, Nike, Playboy, Sean “Diddy” Combs, Suzanne Sommers, Paul Stanley, The Laugh Factory, Prince, David Bowie, Peter Guber, Pizza Hut, George Michael, Cameron Diaz, and hundreds more.”

    Wow. And he wrote me a letter? I was impressed.

    Michael was terrific and down-to-earth when we talked. He let me know that his point in the book was that rewards shouldn’t necessarily be about the number of hours, but that people who are dedicated and work hard to succeed should receive appropriate remuneration for that. I agreed with that and we had a wonderful chat.

    I’ve met some fabulous people and had experiences I never would have had if I hadn’t written this book. It was first published in 2002, and in 2009, my publisher asked me to make some edits, add testimonial blurbs and an updated photo, then re-released it. They were getting some big orders in because of the economic crisis of these last couple of years made my topic quite timely.

    I’m still collecting emails in my word file. Now it’s over 300 pages. I feel very blessed.

    If you haven’t been collecting your compliments and testimonials, start now. If you don’t have the actual notes or letters, just write down what you remember. Whenever you have one of those what’s-the-use-nothing-is-working-life-is-futile days, you can review your collection and remember that you have touched people and made a difference. There’s nothing better for the spirit than that.

    Crime and Punishment

    Posted on February 20th, 2015 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    51 – February 20

    “When I want your opinion, I’ll beat it out of you.”—Chuck Norris

     

    Have you ever done something you’re ashamed of? Made a bad decision, a blunder which you later regretted?

    There was a time when I was very unhappy with myself. I had done something dumb and the committee inside my head was giving me a very hard time. “You’re so stupid!” the voice said. “How could you have done that?” chimed in another. “You’ll never get ahead if you keep doing things like that” said the third. On and on the committee raged.

    Disgusted with myself, I went to the grocery store, but the litany of inadequacies continued while I shopped. The negative voices had really taken over my consciousness and were punishing me.

    Finished at the store, I drove home and into my parking lot. I got out of the car, opened the back door, and leaned over to grab my brown paper grocery bag. Somehow it had gotten wedged in tight between the floor and the seat and was stuck. Angrily, I tugged and pulled at the bag. All of a sudden the paper bag tore, and the force of my tugging sent my arm flying up, my hand in a fist—and I punched myself in the nose!

    (continued on page 50 of The Wealthy Spirit)

    Today’s Affirmation: “My mind is full of powerful, loving thoughts about myself.”

    Sometimes, I just make myself nuts over things I can’t do anything about. One day, my website went down for 3 days. Picture much wailing and gnashing of teeth.

    I knew I needed some solace and support from my buddies, so I posted on Facebook:

    At 4:00 am this morning, Paranoid Schizo Chellie woke me up, cackling that my web site had disappeared forever and I was doomed. Luckily, I caught her, put her back in lockup, and called forth Angel Chellie again through some powerful affirmations like EGBOK (Every Thing’s Gonna Be OK). Send positive thoughts, please!

    And my darling friends posted back. Here’s a sampling of their wonderful words:

    TaRessa Stovall Your timing is always elegant and divine. Your work is so profound that a web glitch can’t touch your magic. Plus you’ll just turn it into one of your wonderful stories with a powerful lesson at the end! We love you and are sending you rich, prosperous, abundant tech blessings!

    Lorrie Kazan during the Bush adm my brother’s anti-war site disappeared off the internet. we had a field day speculating on that one!

    Dina DiStefano Websites need vacations too! Don’t worry, it will be back soon and fully rested to boot!

    Nancy Barry-Jansson Chellie, I see all glitches resolved & your site back up in no time. In the meantime, enjoy a co-vacation with your site! :o )

    Kathryn Alice Misery loves company, so it’s nice to hear a fellow internet person (one I admire) is also having challenges. We are in Barbados, where the internet/phone situation has been giving us trouble. For some people, bad, but for those whose business runs on internet, REALLY hard. Love & support!

    Orna Walters Everything Is Going To Be Okay! You are Loved.

    Amit Bidwe I am going through your website! (Hoping to see it!)

    Allyn Cioban i remember EGBOK! (and it’s true!!!) sending love and light and good wireless ju-ju! xx

    Joanne P. Stein Phew! Glad to know I’m not the only one with a “paranoid schizo” self as well as an angelic self. EGBOK indeed!!!

    Ah, I felt so much better when I shared my woes and got some love and virtual pats on the back. Did more affirmations, and then to top off my feeling-good-again mood, did a little shopping on the Internet and bought myself another pair of gold & leopard sneakers.

    Ah, Retail Therapy works its wonders again! The web site was back up the next day.

    Flower Power

    Posted on February 19th, 2015 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    50 – February 19

    “Remember the turtle progresses only when he sticks his neck out.”—Anonymous

     

    Summer vacation! Wonderful. But summers at the beach were only a fond high school memory. For I was eighteen now, and had just finished my first year at college. Home for the summer this year meant getting a job. After answering some want ads in the paper, I finally had gotten an interview with the Auto Club. Alas. My typing skills were apparently abysmal, and I didn’t qualify for an office job with them.

    Depressed, I turned my car towards home and thought about what kind of job I might find. The previous year, I had gotten my very first job—as a telephone solicitor. It was horrible. I was dreadful. That was out! After that, I got a job at Zody’s, a now-defunct low-end department store, working the return desk. The line of people returning things they had purchased was always long, and the people were always angry. I wasn’t going to go back there.

    Now it looked like office jobs were out, at least until my typing improved. As I thought about what I might be qualified for, suddenly I started thinking about what I might like to do. Until that moment, I hadn’t really thought about liking a job. I rather had the idea that I was doomed to drudgery. But I perked up at the idea I might like something. It suddenly occurred to me that I might like working in at a flower shop. I loved flowers, gardening and hiking. Maybe that would be fun!

    At that moment, I saw a sign that read “Whittier Florists.” Without giving myself too much time to think about it, I impulsively turned into the parking lot, got out of my car, and marched into the flower shop. The woman behind the desk asked if she could help me. I told her I was looking for a job. “Are you a designer?” she asked, sizing me up. “Yes!” I blurted out. (Where had that come from? Oh well, I’ve done it now.) She nodded and said, “All right, come back here and design something.” (Gulp!)

    She walked me back to the workroom, handed me a vase and a bunch of flowers and went off to the front of the shop. Well, I thought, what’s the worst that could happen? I don’t get the job? I don’t have the job now. The worst that can happen is that I break even and leave here the same as I started. But I will have tried. I quickly looked around at the vases of flowers to see how they were put together and dove in. Who knows? Maybe I’ll just get this job!

    I did. The woman came back, looked at the floral arrangement I had made, and said, “Fine. Come back tomorrow to meet the owner. I’ll tell him about you.” I showed up bright and early the next morning, and they put me to work immediately. I worked there every holiday and vacation for the next three years.

    Instead of thinking about what you can do, think about what you’d like to do. Then go for it!

    Today’s Affirmation: “I can do anything I put my mind to!”

     

    It still gives me a chuckle when I think back to that day in the flower shop. Where did that “yes” come from?

    But I know by then I had already developed the idea that if you put your neck out and try, you’ve got a 50-50 shot of being successful. If you don’t try, you’ve got a zero shot at being successful. So what would you rather have? A 50% chance of success or a 0% chance?

    Part of this comes from the actor’s credo that you always say “Yes!” on an audition when they ask you “Can you (fill in the blank)?” Some actors I knew said yes before the interviewer even finished the sentence. (If it turned out to be sky-diving, you could always back up and say no afterward. I’m not pretending I can do anything where the downside is death.)

    Back in my acting days, I was cast in a musical at Walt Disney World called “Show Me America!” Larry Billman, the director of the musical, told me the story of casting actress Teri Garr in a major role in the show when it was originated at Disneyland two years before. She was to play the Statue of Liberty, who was the narrator of the show, and do it on roller skates. (Note: This is my memory of the story circa 1973, so this is an approximation of what was said, not an exact quote.)

    At the audition, Larry asked her if she could roller skate. “Oh, yes,” Larry told me that Teri exclaimed. “I love roller skating. I roller skate all the time. I was practically a professional roller skater!”

    She was cast in the show and was terrifically funny in the part. She did a great job all through rehearsals, but finally the day came for dress rehearsal, and she had to do it on roller skates.

    She couldn’t skate at all. She lurched, waved her arms madly, then sailed across the stage until she ran into something that stopped her. Sometimes she just continued rolling right off into the wings, where someone would grab her, turn her around and push her back onstage.

    She must have been afraid she was going to be fired. But Larry was laughing helplessly, with tears rolling down his face.

    “You’ve never been on skates before, have you?” he accused.

    “Only when I was a kid,” she admitted sheepishly.

    “Well, lucky for you, you are screamingly funny not being able to skate, so we’re leaving you in,” Larry told her. She fell into the orchestra pit at least once a week, shouting “Lookout, John, here I come!” to the conductor.

    I did a little google research, and found a 2008 interview with Larry Billman that included this story and Teri Garr wrote about it in her book Speedbumps: Flooring it Through Hollywood. I was ticked that they both verified the story above, so my memory’s pretty good!

    If Teri had told Larry at the audition that she couldn’t skate, she probably wouldn’t have gotten the part. If I hadn’t said “Yes” I could design flower arrangements, I wouldn’t have gotten the job.

    So have a little chutzpah already. Say yes and wing it!

    Note: I did some research and found Larry on Facebook and sent him this post. He replied: “Chutzpah is the secret to get doors ‘Opened.’ But once inside you have to deliver the goods as you did. Thanks for sharing this story. There is a recent photo of Teri and me in my ‘Friends’ photo album as I still see her as often as possible. I have such admiration for that adorable, non-skating comedienne who became the inspiration she is now in her medical challenges. Now, THAT’S Chutzpah.”

    Larry, you’re so right. I am sending my prayers and blessings to Ms. Teri Garr.

    Confidence

    Posted on February 18th, 2015 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    49 – February 18

    “Do not attempt to do a thing unless you are sure of yourself, but do not relinquish it simply because someone else is not sure of you.”—Stewart E. White

    When I was in high school, just beginning to be interested in a career in the theater, I tried out for the school musical. The year before, I had been in my first musical in a small dancing role. This time I wanted a speaking part, but to get one, you had to sing a song at the audition. It took place in front of the teacher and all the other students—my entire peer group!—who were trying out for parts. Although I had been singing in the church choir for years, I had never sung a solo in front of anyone before. I decided to sing “Tonight” from West Side Story, which sounded pretty good when I rehearsed it at home in the shower. But in front of all my friends that day, I was so nervous, my poor voice just wavered tremulously and I barely squeaked out the last high note. Finally relieved to be finished, I smiled at the applause as I returned to my chair. Then the teacher said, “That’s all right, Chellie, you just keep dancing until you learn how to sing!” and the entire room erupted in laughter. I was devastated.

    I never sang again in high school. I felt the humiliation of that day too intensely to brave its like again. But I kept practicing and improving. When I went to college, I tried again, and won some small parts, but always the fear of ridicule was with me. It all changed when I got into a summer theater program at the University of Oregon at Eugene. I flew there scared but excited. I had determined that I was going for broke with the audition the next day. After all, I reasoned, I wouldn’t ever see any of these people again, so if I made a fool of myself, so what? I had to sing full and strong and joyously, without the crippling fear that strangled the notes in my throat.

    It worked! I sang “I Can’t Say No” from Oklahoma, a funny character piece that suited me perfectly. I had fun with it and the audience had fun with me. When I finished, one of the directors ran up on stage, took my hand, handed me a script—and cast me as the lead in their first show, Celebration. I was elated, triumphant, vindicated! I could sing.

    Confidence ebbed and flowed over the years as I wrestled with my fear demons whenever I took on new challenges. But I never forgot this one shining moment of triumph and how I achieved it: I sang for myself because I thought it was good and did not dwell on how it would be received. And that is the lesson of confidence: Work and improve until you think you’re good. Your People will think you’re good, too! The others don’t matter.

    Today’s Affirmation: “I have confidence in me!”

    I always enjoy watching American Idol, even though Simon Cowell with his famous cutting critiques left years ago, and the other judges have changed a couple of times. They are all clearly looking not only for great singers, but those with the “It” factor. Even if they are really talented singers, they aren’t going to make it if they don’t have charisma. “You have to have the likeability factor if you’re going to be a star!” they warn them.

    I can see the confusion on the kids’ faces. I know they must be thinking “How do I do likeable?”

    But you can tell who has “It”, too, can’t you? It’s written on their faces, in their body language, and in their energy. You can feel it.

    I’d like to get all those kids in a room for 2 hours and coach them how to do it. The judges just know it when they see it – they don’t know how to teach them to do it. “Go for it!” and “Don’t be nervous” are useless instructions to people who are afraid of the moment instead of enjoying the moment.

    Now, you may not be a singer or ever want to be on “American Idol”. But wouldn’t you like to be a star in your field? How would your life change if your personal presence was so magnetic that people were clamoring to work with you?

    It’s a technique that can be learned.

    Marilyn Monroe knew it. She and her friend, Susan Strasberg, were walking down a New York Street one afternoon and no one was paying them any attention at all. Susan remarked how strange it was that no one noticed the famous movie star Marilyn Monroe was right in their midst. Marilyn turned to her and said, “Oh, you want to see me be her?”

    Marilyn straightened up, threw her head back, smiled, and lit up the street with charisma. Suddenly, heads started turning, people pointed and the crowd rushed to surround the star!

    Now, I’m not saying you should try to be Marilyn Monroe. Trying to copy someone else is the biggest mistake you can make. But you can turn heads with your own brand of charisma, and attract the people who need, want, and can benefit from what you have to offer. And get paid—really well paid!for doing what you love!

    Not to brag, but in my own circle of influence, I’ve been doing it for years. My AV guy, Rich, was editing one of my audio sessions and told me his associate kept coming into the room saying, “Who is that? She’s great!”

    That’s wonderful for me to hear – especially considering how terrible I was at presenting myself when I started out…I was one of the fearful ones who’s acting teacher yelled “Don’t be nervous!” at me. (Not a very helpful instruction). My knees and hands shook when I got up in front of people.

    And then, that day on the Oregon summer stock stage, I got it. I had to enjoy performing for myself, or no one else was going to enjoy it. And to really love it full tilt, I had to stop caring what other people thought of me. Seems like an oxymoron, doesn’t it?

    Here’s how it works:

    1.      Start with Talent. Find something you have a natural talent for and work to perfect that. Don’t try out for a singing contest if you can’t carry a tune. If you want to play professional basketball you should be tall, coordinated, and nimble with a ball. You were born talented at something, but often it seems so natural to you that you might not recognize it. When I became a bookkeeper and business manager, I thought it was so simple that everyone could do it. It took me a long time to see it was a innate talent that not everyone had.

    2.      Practice Being Confident: You must have confidence in yourself and your ability in order to succeed. A few people are born with confidence or develop it early. For most of us, though, it takes hiring a coach, taking lessons, and lots of practice. Malcolm Gladwell in his book Outliers estimates it take 10,000 hours or 10 years to become great at anything. So don’t give up before you get there. Gradually, you become proficient at your talent, and appreciate what you can do. With that comes more and more enjoyment as you do it, and then you trust yourself to do it well. It follows naturally that you expect other people will like it, too.

    3.      Share Your Talent with Love: This is “It”. When your love and joy at what you’re doing shows on your face and in your body language. Yet being alone with it isn’t enough. You want to communicate and share your joy with others. The key is to love your audience and invite them in to enjoy your talent with you. The audience wants you to do well. They want to enjoy the ride with you. Trust them and take them with you. Have fun!

    This is true whether you’re a singer, a teacher, an author, an insurance salesperson, a doctor, a chiropractor, a hair stylist, or anyone who works with other people. This will help you have a great conversation at a party or give a 30-second commercial at a networking event.

    And that’s what brings in the cash, too!

    I recorded a free teleclass on this subject:

    “Confidence, Charisma, and Cash:

    3 Master Keys to Making Big Money Now!”

    In it, I share with you the simple lessons I’ve learned how to have the CONFIDENCE that creates CHARISMA that makes people want to buy from you so that you get the CASH to be happy, joyful, and rich.

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    Practice with Parking

    Posted on February 17th, 2015 in The Wealthy Spirit by chellie

    Updated insider information by Chellie Campbell, author of “The Wealthy Spirit: Daily Affirmations for Financial Stress Reduction”

    48 – February 17

    “The man who removes a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.”—Chinese Proverb

    The process of actualizing your desires is simple:

    1.     Pick a goal

    2.     Visualize yourself having it

    3.     Positively affirm having it

    4.     Send out ships to get it

    5.     Celebrate getting it!

    Visualizing having the goal is a step that is most important to master. Pick something small and easy to practice on at first. You could visualize getting a cab quickly and easily, or getting good news in the mail. Since I live in Los Angeles, where it sometimes seems there are a billion cars, I tell people to practice by manifesting a parking space at a busy shopping mall, theater, etc. The trick to getting parking spaces is to visualize the empty space instead of the crowd of cars.

    My mother called me one day and she was very excited. She told me that she had always had trouble parking at the country club on the days she played golf—it was always very crowded. But this particular day, she remembered my stories of manifesting parking spaces and decided to try it. “I drove right up to the front entrance of the club, visualizing an empty space, and just as I arrived, a car pulled out of a space right in front of me! Chellie, this stuff really works!”

    (continued on page 48 of The Wealthy Spirit)

    Today’s Affirmation: “I visualize and create marvels in my life!”

    My friends and I went to see a production of Late Nite Catechism written by Vicki Quade and Maripat Donovan. It was hilarious. Maripat Donovan plays a nun, and you, the audience members, are part of Sister’s class. She takes you back to the days of the Latin Mass, meatless Fridays, and if you went to Catholic school, reminds you about that good old ruler across the knuckles.

    The friends I went with are Jewish, and I was raised a Methodist, but we all howled with laughter just the same. In this one-woman show, Sister interacts with the audience every step of the way. At one point, some people arrived late and were making their way to their seats.

    “You’re late!” said Sister Maripat.

    “Sorry,” said the man, surprised to be spoken to.

    “Sorry, Sister,” said Sister Maripat.

    “Sorry, Sister,” repeated the man abashedly.

    “Why were you late?” she asked.

    “We couldn’t find a place to park,” he answered.

    “Aha. Parking,” she acknowledged, then turned to the audience. “Does anyone remember the prayer for parking?”

    Several hands were raised, and she called on a woman in the front row. “Stand up and say it for this gentleman, please.”

    Whereupon the woman dutifully turned and clearly repeated,

    “Hail Mary, Full of Grace,

    Help me find a parking space.”

    Prayer: another way of manifesting.

    If you get a chance to see this play, go. The New York Times calls it, “hilarious, well-written and inspired.” Jeffrey Lyons from TV’s Sneak Previews calls Late Nite Catechism ”something to savor and enjoy….one of the most intimate, rewarding shows in town.” Their web site is www.latenitecatechism.com.